4 Ways to Boss Up After Any Thing!
We all got a story, sis!
Those stories are derived of some good, some bad and some downright completely earth shattering disappointments and devastation. Some of the things, I’ve lived through — I’d never want to repeat again. Some of the battles I’ve fought, left some war wounds, some nasty scars and unsavory memories. I can attest that while those things were heartbreaking — they were not meant to defeat me. I can assure that they were not meant to break you. They were merely bending, molding and forming you into the BOSS you are today!
The Comeback is Always Stronger Than the Setback
God ain’t never blessed me with less. Anytime I’ve taken a great loss — it’s been an incredible lesson and I’ve left with so much more. From being fired from my job that lead me to my purpose to losing the love of my life which lead to the deep exploration of yoga, self love and God. I gave up trying things my way and established a new relationship with God and His calling over my life. I gave up trying to figure everything out, challenging and trying to understand the purpose of the lesson. I began giving my attention and energy to passing the test. Passing the test and creating a study guide for others — and this in fact, was the biggest BOSS UP ever! I also incorporated the following B’s that has helped me overcome practically any and everything!
- Breathe
Whether it’s anxiety, school, bankruptcy, bills, job loss, heartbreak, kids, stress — I encourage the first order of business is to breath and have a good cry! Yes, an Auntie Mary (I’m Not Gon Cry) ugly face, tears flowing cry. This is a cleansing. This is a part of your healing process. Once you’ve cried, we’re going to breath, get focused and start over. From Day 1 or Day 145, you’re getting back in the game! You are going to sit down with a pen and pad to take some notes. You are going to ask yourself:
- What did I act like I did not know?
- What did I act like I did not feel?
- What do I truly want?
- What am I here to accomplish?
You are going to get quiet and get inward. You are going to get clear on what you have been avoiding. You are going to get familiar with the sister, girlfriend and BOSS inside you!
2. Budget
“Your bank account says a lot about you!” This saying has been etched in my brain every since it let my Millionaire Mentor’s mouth. Your account speaks to who you are and what you deem important. Every boss should be “in her bag” and operating in her purpose. For a sensational comeback, we should be prioritizing how we are investing both our time and our money.
- Do I have a rainy day fund? Emergency fund?
- Extra time?! How am I spending it?
- What am I investing in energetically during my free time?
- What am I working on amazing?
3. Believe
Before anything can shift in your life, you first have to believe that it is possible. You must believe it in the depths of your soul that what you seek is yours. My life mantra has been “Believe In Your Damn Self” and it is in fact, one of the main reasons I am still standing today. Believing and envisioning my success has been my secret weapon. From the hair, suit, smell, house, car — I have attached both my mental and mind to all my desires. Everything happens in life twice! Once in the mind and once in your reality.
- What do I deserve?
- How do I envision my future self?
- Do I really want this in my heart?
- What is my game plan for taking it to the next level and is it working?
4. Build
She R-R-R-R-E-E-E-A-A-D-D-D-Y-Y! No matter where you are in this journey, it is time to build. You have been put through the fire and hopefully, you have already envisioned your next level. You have already envisioned yourself passing the test! You are unstoppable! It is now time to take what you’ve learned and make things happen! It is now time to start BUILDING! Whether you’re eager to start, run or re-brand a business — it is imperative you get to busy and start investing your time, money and energy into things that light your soul on fire. The bounce back hits differently when you have an inner glow. The inner glow that comes from manifesting and bringing to fruition the life you desire. Whether that is an event you have been eager to plan or a book you have been waiting to write. Get to work and start building, BOSS!
- What am I building?
- Am I taking action daily on my goals?
- Am I ready to contribute something amazing to the world?
- Do I remember what I deserve? Do you believe? Of course you do! Let’s Get It!

