…because they couldn’t handle the reality that they had raised two children who despised each other. It was the worst kind of toxicity — the kind that demanded my silence so that others could feign normalcy, when there was nothing normal about that relationship.
These kids grow up believing that they cannot lean on anyone for support, all the while craving a relationship that reassures them of security, yet not letting the partner in for fear of being vulnerable and open to hurt. This creates a vicious circle that’s not good for either party.
…ore demanding. If they were too strict, we learned to walk on eggshells and become self-sufficient. If they were caught up in their own issues, we learned to deal with our own emotional problems or find external validation.