These kids grow up believing that they cannot lean on anyone for support, all the while craving a relationship that reassures them of security, yet not letting the partner in for fear of being vulnerable and open to hurt. This creates a vicious circle that’s not good for either party.
…ore demanding. If they were too strict, we learned to walk on eggshells and become self-sufficient. If they were caught up in their own issues, we learned to deal with our own emotional problems or find external validation.