“Only others can tell me if I’m a good ally, I cannot assume I am” — there you go. You’ll do a lot of empowering by telling people that others can define them. Stop being so weak: you get to define who you are, not me, and not anyone else.
Looking at some other comments, I suppose I’m opening myself up to being presumptuously…
Russell Pompea

I do get to define my own identity. However I said “good ally” — when allyship is about helping others, I need to rely on others to know whether or not I’ve actually helped.