What is every bride’s worst nightmare? Rain on the wedding day! You plan for months, sometimes years and it’s something that you can’t predict or prepare for.

I sat in the makeup chair, watching the rain clouds form out the hotel window.

There was no doubt it was going to rain, it was just a matter of how long and how hard


If you’re a woman, at some point, you’ve experienced “catcalling”… in the mall, walking down the street, in the grocery store, at the gym….etc

If you are anything like me, a woman that doesn’t feel the safest around strange men, for various reasons, when you are the subject of a cat-call, it sets off a fight or flight reaction. Panic sets in, heart beats fast, you cower, head down, walking quickly, waiting for it to be over as quickly as possible.

If you’re a man, perhaps you’ve done it or seen it. Maybe it came in the form of loud…


In the age of instant gratification, it seems people think that being an entrepreneur is just a matter of changing your bio on social media. One might even “fancy it up” a bit and upload a photo or video of their “productivity,” neither of which involve any real risks…and entrepreneurship is all about risks. The true definition of an Entrepreneur is “a person who organizes and operates a business or businesses, taking on greater than normal financial risks in order to do so.”

I told myself that once I successfully became a real entrepreneur and reached $10,000-positive in business capital…


The last words I said to my mother were: “ I’m just calling to see if you’re alive.” I’ve told very few people that.

My mother was quick-witted. She replied, “Ya’ll aint gone be happy until I’m dead and gone.” It didn’t even cross my mind as an option. She was 45 and had lived the life of a rock star and was still standing, just as fine as she wanted to be, so her dying at 45 wasn’t even plausible, right?

Wrong. A few weeks later, my 45-year-old mother was gone.


I am a people pleaser.

I work hard to make sure I am liked and reliable. I am super transparent and I try to never pass judgement. I would give you my drawers if you needed them.

So when people don’t “choose” me, it hurts. It confuses me. My bags of fu*ks to give overflow with abundance.

But this year, I vowed to “give a fu*k less” and to trust my instincts when a vibe is off. I vowed to choose people that choose me.

What does being “chosen” feel like, you ask?

I’ll start by saying what it doesn’t feel like. It doesn’t feel confusing or stressful. …


A fun pre Ola fact about me: I loved the idea of commitment. I loved it so much that I got in a whole marriage when I was 21 and spent all of my teens and early twenties committed to ‘different someones.’

But note that I loved the idea of commitment. The real thing, however, left me itchy, sweaty and needing to run far away. I wanted to be loved and I needed for people to fall in love with me but once that was achieved, I felt trapped and I needed to get out.

I was a paradox, a spin cycle, a hot damned mess.


One of my favorite aspects about releasing “The Little Girl With the Big Hair,” has been showing people how tangible and attainable it is to publish your own book! I was surprised by how many people always wanted to write or release a book but didn’t think it was possible.

It is important to state that there are many paths to releasing a book. I can only vouch for the path that I took. Additionally, my books are children’s books, which require a few different steps than a chapter book, novel, etc.

I’ve comprised a list of 11 steps that…


I’ve never heard a song from Solange that I didn’t like but nothing has ever resonated with me the way that “Cranes in the Sky” has either.

If you’ve heard the song, you know that it’s essentially a lyrical confession of all the ‘activities’ she filled her life with while on the road to self discovery. She was searching in all the wrong places and people for the answers to why she was unhappy. We all do this in some shape or form.


Have you ever been fired or laid off from a job? It is most certainly not the most pleasant feeling in the world.

Before the school year ended, I started ‘transitioning’ out of my teaching position far earlier than I was prepared for (meaning my hours were cut and then I was laid off) and I thought I’d feel that unpleasant feeling.

But as I mentioned in my New Years Post, “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond/react.” …


I made the final freaking payment on my state of the art 2009 Hyundai Accent! Yay? Many of you may question my true intelligence after I make this confession. Some of you will perhaps relate.

I was 20 years old when I moved to Georgia. It was originally only intended to be a 4 day visit. After all, one month before, I had driven 3 freakin days to California to start a new life.

Needless to say, an unforetold chain of events convinced me to stay but I needed my car and everything I owned that I had, let me…

Chantia Singleton

Chantia Singleton is an Author of children’s books & an Educator. Through her writing, she promotes self love & self acceptance for all.

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