Children who abandon their parents.
It’s happening to more and more parents, children blaming them for all their troubles and severing contact for ever. And the emotional toll can be devastating.
Oscar Wilde once warned that children begin their lives loving their parents, then grow up to judge them. If so, surely there is no harsher judgment of a parent than to be deliberately cut out of a child’s life for ever.
Yet this is what happens so often. Children cutting their parents out of their lives with no intention of ever talking to them again.
The reasons can be many and varied and more often than not are inconsequential but cause untold emotional stress on the parents who are usually in the final part of their lives.
More and more children are cutting off contact with their parents rather than attempting to repair a troubled relationship.
In a recent conversation, a friend, who had sacked his father told me I don’t think our relationship can ever be mended, our personalities clash and we are simply not good for each other. He knows how to push all my buttons and I just don’t need the aggravation in my life. I have moved on and I will never go back.
I tried to explain to him that he was young and his father was old, he didn’t need his father in his life but his father needs him. It is not good to judge anyone but for a young person to judge their parents and reject them from their lives is unacceptable. Old people can often be difficult, as younger ones can but we need to be more tolerant as our parents get older.
The belligerence of the elderly can be caused through impatience or very often ill health. Young people are not comfortable being with or being seen with old people even though it may be their parents or grand parents and it is so much easier to tell themselves, I’ve had enough, I don’t want to talk to them or see them again.
Stop and put yourself in their shoes. They feel their life coming to an end. Their joints don’t work as they did which means they cannot walk as well as they did and they are in constant pain. They have eye cataracts, most old people do, which means they cannot see clearly, they are constantly looking through a thick white cloud. People who once embraced them now prefer to avoid them. It is old age.
Be patient. Be tolerant. They will soon be gone and it will be your turn, you have children who are growing.