How to Pick a Fight — to Defend Yourself

The average attacker will spot the vulnerable ones right away. When that person goes from spotting to attacking, you need to know how to respond to prevent being taken or harmed. It’s not something you want to think about. It’s something that could happen. And it is definitely something you need to prepare for so you stay safe and avoid being a statistic.

So how do you do it?

Carrying a weapon is one option but you need to know how to use it right. Otherwise, the weapon you need to defend yourself may just end up being used against you. It could also cause harm to someone else.

Another option is to have self-defense tools, like a stun gun and mace. These work well to temporarily put your attacker down or disorient him. But you may face a situation wherein you’re unable to get to get to your tools and you need to defend yourself using the right technique. And this involves learning a fighting system — one that will engage you (so you stick with the program) and one that meets your willingness to do a certain level of damage on an attacker.

Below are some techniques you could consider:

Tae Kwon Do

Kick. Throw. Punch. These are basically the core moves you need to learn in this martial art. It’s popular so it shouldn’t be hard to find a class in your area. You might also really get into this technique since it includes learning to break stuff (you know, bricks) with your hands and feet. The thing is you may need to buy a lot of stuff since sparring sessions are done in full gear.


Do you enjoy a bit of bloodsport? Then you might like mixed martial arts. Fighters use a variety of tehcniques such as Jiu Jitsu and Muay Thai. Although it’s not really designed as a self-defense system, MMA is perfect for close contact with an attacker. The techniques you learn here could really do some damage on bad people.

Wing Chun

If you’re not keen on doing the blood circulation-stopping moves of MMA, from the triangle choke to the so-called “guillotine,” you can go for the more traditional Wing Chun. This form of martial art is meant for close-range fighting. The fighting system is best for people who want to boost concentration and improve balance. To see how it’s done, check out this movie called “Ip Man.”

Krav Maga

Developed by the Israeli Defense Force, Krav Maga is not limited to teaching you how to throw a punch, and deliver kicks and throws. You can also learn how to disarm an attacker. You’ll also learn to use techniques “frowned upon” in most martial arts, e.g., eye pokes and throat rakes. It’s great for people who want a good workout while learning some very valuable self-defense skills.