This paragraph really resonated with me because I tend to feel overwhelmed by the seemingly insurmountable tasks that I need to complete in order to achieve mastery sometimes. I am learning to “break down” mastering something into smaller, more achievable goals.
When I experience a “failure,” I am learning to view it as a step towards completing a goal and that it is not a reflection of my competence or who I am as a person. My psychologist and I are working to change my perception of failure by looking at it as an attempt to complete a task that maybe I didn’t feel ready or able to complete before; however, I had the courage (despite my fear of failure) to try and I can allow myself to feel a sense of accomplishment for at least trying. This motivates me to take what I learned from the unsuccessful attempt and improve upon it.
When I complete a goal, I am learning to allow myself to feel a sense of achievement and pride in completing what to some might seem like a “small” task. My accomplishment may seem small and easy to others, but it wasn’t small and easy for me to achieve.
I am also learning to surround myself with people who will acknowledge and celebrate my accomplishments with me. I am gravitating away from old friends who compared me to “normal” people or treated my achievements as small or insignificant.
I am also learning that being recognized for putting in the effort to master a task, even if I don’t succeed, is sometimes more important than being recognized for mastery.
I’ll stop now, because I could go on and on about this subject. It’s just something that a lot of people really don’t think about and they should; even if they aren’t dealing with people who suffer from PTSD.