So, to achieve mastery, people need to try, fail, persist in facing each of the steps in each complicated but surmountable task. Failures create unpleasant feelings which are daunting, but realistically and accurately feeling them, provide energy and motivation to concretize action to overcome them, recover from the frustration (build frustration tolerance) and sub failures to persistently try until they ultimately succeed and feel good with higher self-esteem.
Trauma: an overview of this vivid landscape
Larissa Roberts

This paragraph really resonated with me because I tend to feel overwhelmed by the seemingly insurmountable tasks that I need to complete in order to achieve mastery sometimes. I am learning to “break down” mastering something into smaller, more achievable goals.

When I experience a “failure,” I am learning to view it as a step towards completing a goal and that it is not a reflection of my competence or who I am as a person. My psychologist and I are working to change my perception of failure by looking at it as an attempt to complete a task that maybe I didn’t feel ready or able to complete before; however, I had the courage (despite my fear of failure) to try and I can allow myself to feel a sense of accomplishment for at least trying. This motivates me to take what I learned from the unsuccessful attempt and improve upon it.

When I complete a goal, I am learning to allow myself to feel a sense of achievement and pride in completing what to some might seem like a “small” task. My accomplishment may seem small and easy to others, but it wasn’t small and easy for me to achieve.

I am also learning to surround myself with people who will acknowledge and celebrate my accomplishments with me. I am gravitating away from old friends who compared me to “normal” people or treated my achievements as small or insignificant.

I am also learning that being recognized for putting in the effort to master a task, even if I don’t succeed, is sometimes more important than being recognized for mastery.

I’ll stop now, because I could go on and on about this subject. It’s just something that a lot of people really don’t think about and they should; even if they aren’t dealing with people who suffer from PTSD.

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