What I Would Tell My 20 Year Old Self

Nearing my 30th year of life on this planet, I look back at the wealth of knowledge that my experiences have taught me. I think back to a younger, more naive me and wish with everything that I have that I could send the poor chap a note. While there are a million things I would love to tell myself, if I had to narrow it down to a only a few things, this is what I would say:

#1. Invest in Friends

That’s right, mate. Your old High School fellows won’t always keep in touch unless you make an invested effort to keep it that way. Nearing the end of this decade I find myself with good relationships but there were several that I miss. Several that could have been maintained if I had only decided to do so. There were some that I tried to rekindle. Some were able to be reclaimed, others weren’t. People are precious. Relationships are valuable. Act like it.

#2. Invest in Yourself

You have a bright future ahead of you. You really are a pretty lucky guy to have been born charismatic but don’t rely on that, dammit. Learn! Read a book for once, work out a bit more. Do things that will make you more valuable.

#3. Invest in Your Love Life

Your future wife is fantastic. She will be your rock. You’re a lucky dude. When you meet her, realize that much sooner and don’t be such a fool. (backstory: my wife and I’s courtship lasted for years before I even entertained the idea of full commitment, time that was honestly wasted.) You will know very well not long after meeting her that there is no such thing as a better companion for yourself. Lock it down, don’t be a scoundrel!

#4. Invest Your Money Wisely

I was very skeptical of others. As a result I wasted a lot of my money on poor investments. Get professional investment advice from a qualified individual. Trusting your gut is vital but there are people who can save you a lot of disappointment.

Any of these sound familiar? Would your letter to your 20 year old self contain some of the same advice? Anything I left off that you’d recommend? If so, mention it in the comments!

Thanks,

Charles