And I have to work extra hard not to fall into its trap — Since depression came into my life, depressive behaviors came right along with it. I’m so good at it that I don’t even recognize I’m in an episode until the fog clears and I realize I have missed a couple of days. And since quarantine started, about two months ago, I’ve…

I’m Not Ashamed to Be Awake, and nor Should You — I don’t love buzzwords, but I do appreciate them. Mostly, when a word gains traction, it becomes annoying, because too much of a good thing can become, well, jarring. But it’s important to remember the actual meaning behind those pesky words that show up everywhere. Like “triggered” and “woke.” …

sorry not sorry — I’m annoyed. I allowed the actions of a cis white guy to get under my skin. I’m better than that. Most days. When I’m spiritually fit. But today, I was semi-spiritually fit. So the fuckeries of white cis people were glaring. On Thursday last week, I gave a talk at…

What I learned from Ingrid Rojas Contreras’ essay — “So much of not writing is writing,” says Ingrid Rojas Contreras in her essay “On Not Writing: An Illustrated Guide to my Anxieties.” Contreras recounts how she tried to track her writing and other factors to find the combination that would deliver. …

The Two Came Together — In 2016 I came out to my family and friends. There was a lot of awkwardness on my part, but mostly, there was a lot of love. Most folks didn’t give a shit, and others, well, they said their pieces. I was also overseas when I came out, which I…

Without asking first — it’s basic respect, mate — When I was seventeen, a relative asked me if they could pay me to touch me. For years this has haunted me: the figure, by the bed, fingers fumbling me awake, with desperation and perverse begging to let them. Today, I think, shit, at least he asked and didn’t just…

It’s Unbelievably Brave to Be Non-Binary, and Overwhelmingly Not a Choice — To exist in between, to exist in spaces undefined, to exist beyond limits of people’s imaginations is at turns rewarding, frustrating, delicious and hard. When you live in a binary world. It’s unbelievably brave to be non-binary and genderqueer, and overwhelmingly not a choice. I didn’t choose to be non-binary…