Thank you. I absolutely agree that there will be something I gain from that relationship … eventually. In this particular case I invested in his healing thinking that when I needed him, he would be there for me. And it is also true that when that day came he was nowhere to be found. He never intended to return the favor. He was just cashing the checks and looking for the nearest exit. All the while telling me “just be patient, I am healing, I need time,”etc. So, yes, I like to be the helper because it makes me feel good to do that for another. In a relationship, though, I want to be with someone who is also willing, and capable of holding me up when necessary. I made an investment based on trust in his goodness, and honesty, and faith that he would pull his weight in the relationship and I just got burned in this case.