Oct 26 * 3 min read
Positive Speech: A How To Guide
A powerful step on your road to mastery (of anything) can be the practice of positive speech.
Positive speech — sounds easy, right? Look on the bright side? Be cheery?
Not so fast. First, let me make the case. Mystics know that thoughts are things that influence the universe. Spoken words, as the manifestations of thoughts, have even more power.
The ancients believed that words contain their own inherent energy. A Hawaiian proverb asserts, “In the word is life, and in the word, death.”
Positive speech has a profound influence on your life. Why? Your subconscious takes things literally. When it hears positive words, it responds in kind. That colors every part of your life.
Every cell in your body responds to your thoughts and words. This can make the difference between being sick and being well.
Most of human speech falls to the negative. In truth, negative speech has become a blood sport in our society. But, you know what? It’s not good for you. Positive speech in a negative world presents a challenge.
Yet, this can work for you. And you don’t have to turn into Pollyanna.
Start immediately. Listen to yourself. Listen to others. When someone speaks negatively, don’t reinforce and don’t add on. When you hear yourself speaking negatively, don’t beat yourself up with more negativity. Simply consider what you could have said instead.
Any words said habitually have power, so listen to your expressions. Stop using negatives such as “No way,” and “Good grief.” Remember that words reinforced by emotion have special impact.
Positive speech doesn’t mean you don’t express anger or emotion. David K. Bray, a Hawaiian kahuna (priest), taught that your feelings of anger, frustration, and grief must be understood and processed in a constructive way for you to become a powerful person.
Don’t damn or darn anything or anybody. No matter what. Anticipate moments of shock by programming yourself in advance with positive expletives. Think of the mild ones your grandparents used, such as “My goodness!” “Gracious!” “Dear me,” and “My word!” Don’t use body functions to express anger. Your body doesn’t deserve that.
If you must swear, save your swear words for special occasions. I once heard my teenaged stepson and his friends swearing up a storm. Of course they thought that made them sound older. I said to them, “You know, you’re wasting those words. When you really need them, you won’t have them because they’ll be all worn out.” They thought I’d gone mad but they did tone it down.
Avoid sarcasm, which sends a confusing message to your subconscious. Saying “Wonderful!” when you mean the opposite causes disharmony.
Avoid using “but,” which sets up a situation of conflict, unless that’s your clear intent. Use “and” instead, and see how that changes the narrative.
Avoid using “try.” “I will try” usually means “I don’t intend to” or “I doubt I can.” Be honest, and say what you mean, even if it doesn’t please others.
The word “should” often indicates a conflict between your thinking mind and your subconscious. Pay special attention to every “should” you speak, and ask yourself what the conflict is all about.
Avoid exaggeration. It’s actually a mild form of lying. Don’t overuse the words “really” and “very.” This is rampant in today’s world. Think before you use all superlatives to avoid word inflation. Is what you heard truly “fantastic” or “great”? Resist answering a question with “Absolutely!” and “Perfect!” Is anything ever absolute or perfect? Maybe. Maybe not.
Contradiction resonates badly in the subconscious. Do it habitually and it fosters dissension and mistrust. When you have another point of view, simply state it clearly.
When you constantly ask, “Really?” or “Is that so?” you question the speaker’s veracity. Avoid it unless that’s your intent. To comment during a conversation, it’s better to say, “I hear you.”
When you repeat, “You know,” you’re having trouble communicating or finding the words to express yourself. Slow down and think about what you want to say.
Natural and Unnatural Disasters
How to talk about a flood or fire or hurricane? A car crash? Your ex? Your most unfavorite politician?
Say what you want to say and don’t add negativity. Stick to the facts. Speak in nouns and verbs. Express your own feelings as fluently as you can. Just don’t add the negativity. Let go of adjectives and adverbs.
Positive speech takes time. As you practice it, your awareness will grow. You can enlist a “talk buddy” to flag your negatives while you return the favor. You can put a dollar in a jar when you say a negative. That gets the attention of your subconscious!
You have the power to make your life positive. And there’s more. Every thought you think and word you speak either adds to the positive store in the universe or to the negative store.
Give yourself and the universe a gift of the positive.
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