How to Make This Year Your Year
by Miko Chato
One of the first few articles that I’ve written and posted on Medium was about New Year’s Resolutions and tips on keeping them. Since it’s been over a year, I thought it would be fitting to come up with an article around the same theme. I didn’t want to write specifically about resolutions because that’s been done countless of times and honestly, who actually manages to follow their resolutions? For this year, I know I didn’t.
Instead of doing that, I decided it would be more useful to write about making your life better in general. I’m laughing at myself as I’m writing this because I’m making it seem like I have my life together therefore I have the right to tell you what to do with your life. I don’t. My life is a mess but it’s okay. I’m pretty sure your life is a mess too. We’re all in this together.
- Take care of the significant people around you. I can’t stress this enough. It’s extremely important for you to appreciate the people that are always there for you no matter what. Th list of these people might include family, friends or a special someone. Cherish them. Sometimes, we forget to do this and we end up taking them for granted — which is terrible because these people put so much effort and time dealing with you and you just take it all in without giving anything in return. So, be there for them. Support them the way they support you. Tell them they’re special. Buy them presents. Hang out with them. Give them hugs. Celebrate their birthdays. The more love you give and the more positivity you spread, the happier you’ll be because you’ll get much more in return. Karma’s a bitch only if you are.
- Take care of your career. Whether you have a job or you’re still in school (or both), make sure you’re doing what you love most. Yes, we live in a world where financial stability is tough to attain and doing whatever earns you big money seems tempting but nothing beats an overall sense of achievement and happiness from doing something you actually care about. Think about it. Would you rather be earning well but exhausted and bored doing a 9 to 5 pm office job or would you rather be earning enough and following your passions? Although it is beneficial to be aware of the realities of life and how hard it is to survive, it’s also beneficial to know what you want in life. With this, you’ll be able to weigh both sides, make good decisions and have a better life.
- Take care of your relationships. This refers more to your other relationships with other people — people that you might have conflict with. If you want to have a better year, you definitely should strive to fix your relationship with other people despite all the heavy negative emotions both parties might have. Squash the beef. Bury the hatchet. End the drama. By being the bigger person and being on good terms with the people you’ve had difficulties with, you’re going to have one less thing to worry about. You never know, you might even revive any dead relationships and add more good people to your life.
- Take care of yourself. Disregarding the possibility of reincarnation and referencing an infamous godsend poet, you only live once. This is your only chance to live and this life vessel that you have now is the only one you’ll have. Be good to your body and to yourself. Eat good food. Go to the gym. Drink lots of water. Run. Do the Spartan race. You also need to take care of yourself mentally, of course. Sleep longer. Read more. Watch films. Travel. Do some sudoku. Taking care of yourself socially will boost your endorphins and will help you have a more successful year. Hang out with your friends. Talk to your grandparents. Don’t spend time with pessimists. Don’t put any effort and/or time on relationships with ‘friends’ who don’t care about you. Pro-tip: it’s okay to cut off people who don’t want you anyway. Sometimes, we keep trying to connect with people and sometimes, it just doesn’t work out. The feeling is not mutual. This is when you decide to stop, leave and move on — doing this will reduce your stress levels.
In conclusion, the key to a better year can be simply summed down to four easy steps. You’ll only be fine if you follow everything I just said.
Of course, I’m kidding. Understanding life and human relationships is too complex. That’s why there’s a whole course at university for that. There’s no proper way to prepare yourself and predict what’s about to come in the next 12 months. I guess the only thing we can do is be in the moment — enjoy the good things and learn a lot from the bad ones.