What do I have to Offer?
At the core of our existence, I believe that we are either plagued or empowered by a simple, internal question, “What do I have to offer?”
It’s a lucrative question with an even more lucrative answer sometimes, and we are constantly assessing the answer to this question in our personal, professional, and family lives.
A prime example of the question coming into play in our lives is when we go on a date. Before a date, blind or other, we tend to take note of what we have to offer — looks, a great sense of humor, connection to a powerful company, etc… And typically, we have at least a bit of confidence going into the date. This is the question at work. In a good way.
But what happens when we are facing our boss after a work-related mistake that was our own fault and we are feeling worthless?
“What do I have to offer?”
My advice would be to reassure yourself that what you do have to offer is greater than any mistake. Your confidence in what you have to offer is a dynamic element — it shifts and changes all the time. But what you can be sure of is that you showed up. YOU were there to try. The fact that you were willing to offer can be a solid foothold in your despair, if you let it.
So how can we seize this introspective little bugger and use it to truly empower our lives?
- Know that without counting talents or charm, you already have plenty to offer as a unique individual, and an endless sea of potential (this coming from an identical twin who shared many of the same interests and qualities as another person on this planet!).
- EMBRACE. Embrace this question and answer. Think about the good things that you’ve done in your life! Even coming up with just one story of how you gave the homeless man two dollars means that you offered the world something.
3. Open your mind to the possibility that the answer to this question is for your sake, and your sake solely. We can’t compare ourselves to others when this question arises, or dear friend, we will slip into a deep hole that is quite difficult to come out of.
Once you grasp these three truths in regard to the question, I believe that the answer can become a motivational game within ourselves.
Whether you are the type of person to read this and make a list of what you have to offer to boost self-esteem, or the type to allow this message to enter in one ear and out the other, I hope that you can begin to recognize where, when, why, and how you ask yourself, “What do I have to offer?” and embrace its motivational potential in your life.
We can then look back without judgement, look forward with hope, and maybe most importantly, live in the present with vigor.