3 firm guidelines on settling in relationships — We were sitting on the couch browsing the interwebs for a good show to help digest the leftovers we’d just devoured when we heard it together — the line that subconsciously shifted our faux-commital relationship to the point of no return. As the trailer for Deon Cole’s Netflix special, Cole…

A guide to facing fears, parents, and pandemics — After leaving my job without a plan, denying countless job offers because they didn’t feel like a fit, hustling as a driver for multiple delivery services while building a writing foundation and nearly getting evicted while doing so, I finally decided to surrender to the path of least resistance. …

5 signs to help you answer that burning question — How do you know when you’re in love? Well, initially, I’d answer that question the same way I’d answer, “How do you know when you’re pregnant?” You’ll just know. But, I understand we haven’t all experienced pregnancy, and for my men, well, you know… it’s not quite realistic. So, for…

3 steps to finding comfort in the unknown — Since stepping away from teaching, life has been quite different. These particular words came to me in meditation on October 18, 2019, a day when I paused my writing to go to the hospital. This was the day after my aunt’s stroke, a week after my second eviction notice cleared…

… if it wasn’t for you. — In the past, I’ve found it easy to blame “lovers” for things not going right, but honestly, after doing the work, I see all of my dirt. I’m fairly non-committal (save the Lizzo jokes) and have no issue detaching. …

The curse ends here. — 3:55 am: I get a call from my mom and groggily awake from my sleep. …

Is it really a journey if you know everything? — I retired from teaching at 26. Whew, there it is, this truth in which I’m living and trying every day not to backtrack and convince myself was a mistake. Let me start by saying, I don’t have the answers for which you’re searching. I don’t even have them for myself, yet. If you’re looking for answers…