You can’t be Madonna and not be a bitch.

In another twist in the very public high-profile custody battle, the child in question, Rocco Ritchie (or someone using his name and image) unwittingly added more into the mix. In his twitter bio, he put that he’s the “son of a bitch” probably in reference to Madonna’s onstage meltdown in Australia last month.

The thing is: you can’t be Madonna and not be a bitch. Hence, her songs from her latest 2015 album Rebel Heart: Bitch I’m Madonna and Unapologetic Bitch. She’s a working mom, and even before she was a mother, she was always working at building her career and establishing an empire. As many fans as she has, however, there are people who don’t think much of her. Just ask the people who complained about her putting fake signs in her Manhattan neighborhood to save a parking space.

She’s been an icon since the eighties, and in a world where women have fought to be seen in equal terms as men, Madonna has staying power by continuing to spin music and combining it with capitalizing on her sexuality even now at the fine age of 57. Sure, a lot of millennials think that she’s desperate and irrelevant (toxic even), but at least she’s still in the public eye. Her recent stunts of pulling a 17-year-old fan’s shirt off and engaged Brienne of Tarth in some strange stage performance involving spanking and a banana sword fight add to her list of publicity stunts like kissing Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera a few years back (in front of her then husband Guy Ritchie and six-year-old daughter Lourdes) and even poor unsuspecting Drake who probably had to rinse his mouth with extra-strength Listerine afterwards.

Unsurprisingly, however, Madonna made it into a list of women that other women find terrifying. Among her cohorts are: Angela Merkel, Hillary Clinton, Anna Wintour and Margaret Thatcher. Like Medusa, they can turn onlookers to stone with a single glance.

She’s also made it into a more inclusive and younger set of 2015’s 50 most powerful women list. In this who’s who, however, peppered by names such as Angelina Jolie, Beyonce and Amy Poehler, most women have young children. It’s one thing when women fight the age-old question of being aggressive versus assertive or bitchy or blunt at work, it’s another when there are children in the picture.

Somehow, I can’t imagine these women rearing their children without any help. These powerful women probably outsource their childcare. In this age of Twitter and cheap labor, it doesn’t only take a village to raise a child. There are nannies on payroll, and if your child has ADD, having an Ipad is close to a paid monkey to entertain your child. You can’t go to a board meeting unless you have a babysitter.

When these children reach adolescence, that’s when trouble starts. Adolescence is hard enough as it is. Just ask anyone who’s been through it or is now going through puberty (i.e. Rocco). It is downright painful. But with fame and fortune added, a deeper hell opens up (i.e. Rocco).

According to the Institute of Women’s Policy Research “women’s increased labor force participation represents a significant change in the U.S. economy since 1950”. This means that the more Madonnas are out there and the more successful women are, children like Rocco will feel that they are losing their mothers to their careers. It sounds unfair, but that’s life for you.

For children of bitches, life can be bitter. Sadly, Rocco is probably not alone. His Twitter bio is apt and shows awareness: “Son of a bitch.” Do these words carry a longing not for a bitch, but for a mother?

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