‘Looks Don’t Matter to Me’ All of them Said, and Then This Happened — Musedamused

What do you look for when finding a life partner? Trust, loyalty, compatibility? I know many of you will say yes. But, is it only on social media that you say you don’t care about looks of a person or is it a lie you have been telling yourself?
Two years into finding a partner through arranged marriage system and all I got to hear is ‘You are intelligent, good-natured, but I can’t marry you because you are not beautiful enough for me.’ Earlier, I used to think it is just me who is getting rejected on a trivial issue, i.e. my short height. And then I started reading stories of people on the Internet where they shared how they were body-shamed and rejected numerous times for not being as beautiful as per societal standards.
When I see old-aged couples near me, I wonder what it is the secret to their marriage? Are they still together because of how they look? No, that can’t be it! Life is a journey full of unpredictable highs and lows, mostly lows, and you can’t stay together just because you look lovey-dovey cutie couple.
I am someone who believes marriage is much more than marrying someone who is just physically compatible with you. When life hits you hard, you’ll need someone who stays by your side not just out of duty but out of love. But, two years into finding my life partner and I didn’t find someone who has the same ideology as mine.
What is hurtful is not that people reject someone for not being physical compatible, but the way they do so. There have been instances where people during an arranged marriage meeting have said on my face that they don’t find my pretty enough.
The irony is these same guys post great things on the Internet about body-shaming and that people should not make fun of others. Ahhh, these hypocrites!
It’s going to be 2020, and till date, I haven’t found someone who would look at me and sees my eternal beauty, one that lasts long. 2 years into arranged marriage hunt and all I have got is disappointment.
But, there is a silver lining for everything! Being the kind of hopeful person I am, I know one day someone will touch my soul and stay with me for the person I am, and not how I look.
One day that will be when I will be touched with the light of love!
Originally published at https://www.musedamused.com on November 7, 2019.
