Nice article . Yes, it is important to have people who help us to become a better person in every possible way but sometimes there is another side to it . Some people try to put you down continuously and we keep on changing to meet ' their ' standards ,to please them ,to get peace and love and in the process we become an entirely different person . We actually start living the life they want us to live and we lose the most precious gift of God ' our true self ' . So it is important to know that the person setting higher standards for us is doing it for the right reason and intention .