On Fear

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What are you most afraid of? Are you afraid of losing your family and friends? Are you afraid of not having enough to satisfy basic needs? Are you afraid of being alone, with no one to love? Are you afraid of never realizing your full potential? Are you afraid of being forgotten?

These are questions to which only we can answer. Each of us must answer these questions in order that we conquer the demons in our heads. More often than not, fear is what drives a great many decisions we make, each day. No, not the desire to succeed nor the eagerness to make ourselves or our families proud. Fear of what would happen if we miss out on opportunities, of the world’s reaction if we don’t go as far, on a scale imposed on us, as everyone else expects. Fear of being poor, lonely, unsuccessful or unhappy.

We are driven by these fears so wholly that we do not recognize they exist and thus fail to examine what it is we are afraid of. The feeling exists, somewhere within our psyche, but looking inside means risking ourselves on a journey too few choose to make.

Looking inside means potentially unmasking demons within, long-hidden, yet ever-present and influential.

I think it takes courage of the highest kind to look at our innermost selves, at what exactly we are afraid of and what decisions they have caused us to make. The purpose of this is not to linger in the past. On the contrary, it is to free from its claws. When we truly learn from the past, we free ourselves from it.

Yes, fear of failure has driven individuals to great success in their fields. On attaining these heights, the fear never goes away. It simply morphs into fear of a different kind, of losing it all. The ability to truly enjoy the present, the miracle of life, is hindered by this constant state of anxiety.

Once we can find the roots of our fear, acknowledge the effects they have had on us and then figure out how to move on from them, we become fully independent beings. Life becomes less a rat-race. It is a miracle, and only in the absence of fear does the light shine through.

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