How did I stop criticizing people.

When I started to read the book “How to win friends and influence people”, first chapter was about not criticizing people. Carnegie says that it is very negative quality of people. So from the moment i’ve start reading this book, i decided to stop criticizing forever. It is obvious that i didn’t stop criticizing fully, however I hope to reach it. I want to explain you couple methods, that I use to stop sitting in judgement.

Most people think that they are ideal, that they do not criticize others, that they are friendly etc. However in most cases, that is wrong. Excessive criticism can prevent you to make new friends, learn new things, and people won’t find you a good person. This state is for you, if you want to learn how to accept people for who they are, and learn how to become more open.

Firstly, try to look to yourself from the outside. That could be the most difficult, but most important step. In case of that situation, you immediately see yourself from the other people’s sight. Mainly, it helps you to decrease your anger, because you start to understand that you look wrong.

I already used this method, and found that it helps to decrease your desire to criticize.

My second advice is to think positively. You may overly condemn people because you think negatively. You should change your angle of view and begin to relate positively to others. It helped me to prevent a situations, when I become angry for others.

So these two actions helped me to stop criticizing people, even if partly, but helped.