While I do agree with you that everyone experiences grief differently, in my life it has become a division of those who HAVE experienced a death of a loved one and those who haven’t. I feel an affinity with those who have lost a loved one and feel we share one thing — grief. It doesn’t matter how we experience it or express it, we share grief.
I love your honesty in this so much. I appreciate it both as someone whose lost loved ones and someone who knows people who have lost loved ones. Sometimes I even forget how to react, even though I’ve gone through grief. I so appreciated your reminder that people need their own needs, and those look different to different people.
Beautifully written article, and very helpful to those of us who sometimes find ourselves tongue-tied, unsure of what to say to comfort a grieving person, or who (despite the best intentions) put our whole foot right in our mouth).
Also, you make an excellent point here: