Hi, I rarely get to read something that balances on the knife’s edge of both being sincere and…
Amanda Stevens

I didn’t call you any names. My problem with this whole event arises from the fact that you tried to make this a “trans issue,” when clearly it wasn’t. Ali had no idea that you were, and thought he was just getting in on a joke. Which seems to be what bothers you — being seen as a joke. Which you are not. You’re a person. As for what I would do if someone was sexually aggressive towards me in a public setting as you describe, I would, yes, assume that he were joking and say no, thanks, with a laugh. Because that’s how grownups handle their shit. By themselves. I suppose the other thing that bothers me about this is that it seems like you expected special treatment from the judges simply by virtue of your transness, and when you didn’t get it, you got mad, and went on a crusade. And calling this sexual harassment just devalues the experiences of people who’ve actually been harassed and assaulted, like friends I’ve had and certain relatives of mine. Now, if he came up to you and said, “Hey, faggot, let me rough up them jubblies a mite,” then it would be a completely different situation, and I’d be on your side completely. But that’s not what happened.

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