This is honestly painful to read. I can’t tell if autocorrect or you’re so mad you’re stumbling all over the keyboard. Missing words and extraneous words abound, so probably closer to the second one.
That said, I gave it my best go.
My issue is that the author’s behavior condones catcalling. She placates them, she smiles, she laughs, she flirts. She gives them EVERYTHING they wanted from the interaction, and thusly encourages them to go on to do it again. This total failure to communicate is a part of the problem. The author even acknowledges that by feigning interest with catcallers, she is throwing other women to the wolves. Please see the following quote.
“And yes, I know that in doing this — in using courtesy as a weapon of self defense — that I am also actively enabling the behavior and I am encouraging it further and I am part of the problem.”
You absolutely have the right to reject another person’s attention. Use that right and go on with your day.
Pretty sure catcallers would shut up right quick if no one heard them but themselves. The solution is clear communication by members of both genders that catcalling is an inappropriate way to approach anyone. The author understands and states that her behavior ignores the real problem, prolongs it, NURTURES it. Of course I don’t blame catcalling victims for being accosted - but if you willingly in into conversation with an offender, you convert them from “offender” to “acquaintance”. Since you mentioned rape, I’m sure you know that acquaintance rape is far more common than being victimized by a stranger or passerby. Which is really kind of the final nail in the coffin of your point.
Talking to catcallers only makes it more dangerous. Keep strangers as strangers unless you want them in your life.