Jealousy. It’s such a horrible feeling. It lies to me. It whispers in my ear all my worst fears. “She wouldn’t have done that if she loved you like she loves him!” “He’s more attracted to her than he is to you.” “You’re not important anymore.” …

For the last ten years of my life I’ve been gaining 10–15 pounds a year. This year I’ve made a number of lifestyle changes that have significantly reversed that trend. Food Journaling I count, to the best of my ability, how many calories I put into my body. I use the MyFitnessPal…

You Just Don’t Know It Yet — About four years ago, I was wrestling with the idea of asking my wife if we could open our marriage. I was scared. For three days, I retreated into my own mind, weighing the outcome of what such a conversation might be. My wife sensed there was something wrong. I…

Originally Posted: August 24, 2015 Sometimes, you just need some cuddles*. You’re alone and longing for physical connection and it’s quite possible that any number of people could fill your cuddle need at that moment. …

Originally Posted: August 20th, 2015 I think just about every person I’ve come out to about being poly asks some variation of the “What about the children?” question. Children are the epitome of innocence and perfection in our puritanical society. And try as you might to be accepting and understanding…

Originally Posted: August 18, 2015 It is not uncommon for primary relationships to have a negotiated power to veto each other’s other relationships. If veto power is invoked on a relationship, then it has to end — no questions asked. I personally find the veto power to be one of…

Originally Posted: August 18, 2015 You’re about to start a new relationship? Congratulations! Clear and open communication is critically important to the success of any relationship, no matter what kind of relationship you are embarking on. …

Originally Posted: August 17th, 2015 One of the skills I continue to work on in my relationships is how to give information to someone when you suspect it will not be happily received. It can be further complicated when that person lives far away. Some of you may have heard…

Originally Posted: August 17th, 2015 Every relationship has deal-breakers that are either implicit or explicit. For most relationships the list of such offenses includes cheating, physical violence, and verbal abuse. In poly relationships, there are other kinds of deal-breakers. For some this may be failure to practice safer sex. One…