We have grown on a society who tells us how to act and what to think.
Family is consider the nest of our knowledge, principles and values. What we don’t learn in school, we learn it in home from our family.

It is true that our parents didn’t learn how to parent. They transmitted their knowledge to us how they thought it was better, but not in all cases was the best way.

I don’t have a normal family. Neither my friends do (I guess that’s why we are friends, but that’s another story). I do have friends with a lovely family and surely their family are prio 1 in their lives. But not for me and I am sure, that I am not the only one who feel that way.

I always tried to impress my family: to be the very best. The role model kid who will stand out on grown ups conversations. My way of acting was all about to make proud my parents and my family, instead of letting me think by myself and respond to the consequences of my own acts.

I am not saying that I don’t have a lovely family. I am only saying that I don’t like the way the judge and always criticize everyone and each member. I’ve evolve from the orphan kid with no future to the handsome and smart teen about to gradute from Engineering school.
Their perspective of me was, that I will not even finish school, probably get a girl pregnant and have a shitty job. Why? Because I am an orphan.

Now that I am more mature and old enough to understand it. I can see how my parents acted. I can interpret the good learnings and the bad ones.
I am the one who criticize my family, because I see the world with other eyes. The eyes of maturity. My family has a wrong way to teach my relatives and they tried to teach me as long as my parents died. Thankfully, I didn’t absorb it.

When I say that Family is not the most important thing, I mean it right now. Eventually when I have my own family, will have the opportunity to teach my own kids the right way. The way I never had. It will be then when mi Family becomes the most important thing.

If you have a dysfunctional family or you feel like you don’t belong to them, change the perspective. I know it sounds mainstream, but look at the brightside. I have proved, that not all situations are just shit. You always learn something.

This go to family members: STOP CRITICIZING.