2018: When You Hoped Things Would Be Different

Medium had to squash that with the first email they send out!

Celebrate? Yes! Drink? No.

I went out last night to have some fun and to do so in a way that I would not wake up with any sort of regret. I woke up this morning with the same hope that this year would be different from previous years.

Then I checked my email.

Medium Staff made sure to squash that hope quickly. This was the first email in my inbox.

You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.

Excellent work Medium! My coffee had not even kicked in and I see this. But I clicked on the link with the hope that a rational argument would be made this time. That something useful would come out of it.

The linked post on Medium references a social media post — but of course does not link to the post — then hits you with this line.

“I am not a “disgrace to women” because I don’t support the women’s march. I do not feel I am a “second class citizen” because I am a woman….”

Without reading another word, I knew where this was going. But I also knew the author would miss the entire point of the opening line from the social media post. (Which you can read here if you want to get the full context.)

To be forced to say that “I am not a disgrace”, the author — who identifies herself as a feminist — is clearly stating that she has been attacked, labeled, mocked, and ridiculed as a disgrace for not supporting the Women’s March.

Do you sense a theme here? The issues shown are quite focused.

But she has a reason for not supporting it

They call it a women’s march but it’s only for women who share the same thoughts and beliefs as they do. That means they are the women who believe X,Y and Z. Oh and hate Trump even though he hasn’t done one thing yet.

She has a point. Have you ever disagreed with a liberal or a progressive? Most cannot put together a coherent sentence — much less a coherent argument — without the race card, the sexist card, the boycott card, or some kind of “card” being played.

She was attacked for stating an opinion. She was attacked for having a thought. But let’s not have an independent thought get in the way. That is simply unacceptable.

Then you go to the gift that Medium dropped into my inbox.

That author listed nine examples of people that needed to be thanked so one woman can have the right to say “No.” Nine examples for her to feel ashamed for not continuing the “fight.”

How can I be so certain that is an attempt to ridicule, to disgrace? Well, let the author speak for herself

“You did nothing to earn those rights. You were born into those rights. You did nothing…”

Well, if that is not an attempt to shame a woman into action, then I have no idea what that is meant to be. Third grade called and they want their name-calling taunts back.

But I digress. So, the author of Medium made her case for continuing the fight. (Feel free to read the mission of the Women’s March here as well.)

You still make less than a man for doing the same work.

The only problem is that the Women’s March is not march for equal pay for equal work. (Never mind that there is no such thing as “equal work” nor an enforceable standard.) The Women’s March is marching for —

All women should be paid equitably…

There is a difference — albeit minute — but there is a difference. That is the reason for anything political to be as ambiguous as possible. The organizers of the march can claim victory if pay is “fair” because the meaning of fair is left up to interpretation. (For those of you reading this with an open mind — you will see the point I am making here.)

You still don’t have full rights over your own body. Men are still debating over your uterus. Over your prenatal care. Over your choices.

But it seems that our Medium author and the Women’s March are in agreement on this one — -

We do not accept any federal, state or local rollbacks, cuts or restrictions on our ability to access quality reproductive healthcare services, birth control, HIV/AIDS care and prevention, or medically accurate sexuality education. This means open access to safe, legal, affordable abortion and birth control for all people, regardless of income, location or education.

This is an old argument. But it seems to stick around even though it is completely untrue. You have full rights over your body. As the author of the “social media post” put it —

Quit blaming. Take responsibility.

That is the real problem. The responsibility part. To have “full rights” also means you have “full responsibility” as well. If you want no one to say you have no input on what you do, then you cannot ask them to pay for it as well. Because you — not other people — you invited them into the conversation over what will be provided.

If I have to continue along these lines, then you aren’t getting the point.

The woman who does not support the Women’s March is right. It is not a march for all women. It is a march for a specific group of women who all believe the exact same thing — but they will have no power if they cannot sell it for the truth that it is.

The number of women who support the march would dramatically decrease if they knew that this group will only fight for specific issues. Because the Medium author had no response to —

Where were you protecting our rights when that poor helpless woman was raped behind a dumpster and the rapist served only 3 months?
Where were you protecting our right when the US Women’s Team was fighting for EQUAL PAY?
Where were you protecting our rights when women soldiers fought to be in the front lines?

It seems that they were —

…NO WHERE- You had so many opportunities to stand for women in the past 8 years, and did nothing.
So stop giving me the speech that you are “protecting my rights.”
You can’t protect women’s rights when it’s only convenient for you- you protect rights at EVERY moment you get- NO MATTER who is President. That’s the true definition of being a feminist.
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