I Think Jim Rohn Was Wrong.

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Have you ever heard the quote below?

“You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” — Jim Rohn

If I can be completely honest with you I am so tired of hearing this quote.

Every time I turn around I am always hearing business people, life coaches, niche leaders, social media influencer’s, any body who wants to use the latest cool buzz words talking about the five people you spend the most time with.

I know the idea behind this quote is supposed to be that the five people you spend the most time with are the biggest influences on your life, but isn’t that true about any five things you spend a lot of time with in your life?

What if instead of five people it was:

  • The last 5 women (or men) you’ve dated.
  • The last 5 books you read.
  • The last 5 children you watched.
  • The last 5 TV shows you watched.
  • The last 5 restaurants you ate at.

The list could go on and on…

What’s the point really? And who came up with five? What is the magic of the number 5?

Okay, Okay I’m not saying there isn’t some value to the quote and if it truly does have that large of impact on you then why don’t we change it to something of value.

Instead of worrying about the five people you spend the most time with, why don’t we try to flip the message a little bit and get the best value out of the quote.

Let’s do a quick test here and see what you think.

What is the difference between these two pictures below?

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If we apply the quote above there isn’t really any difference between these two groups of “people” is there.

They are both pictures of five people.

Which group of people you decide to associate yourself with would be up to you as a person.

Is one of the groups of people above better then the other? No.

So here is where I want to make a change to the quote above.

I don’t care what the five people look like, where they went to school, if they are in business, if they study art, if they drive a Lamborghini, or a Nissan, what I’m interested in is their Mindset.

I want to do away with all of the external things we judge people by and I want to focus on how they think.

Your mindset is one of the few things in life that you can control.

I believe your mindset truly does control your reality in life.

So I don’t care what you look like, drive, where you went to school, what your family name is, where you came from, what your up bringing was, are you a man or women, or how much you paid for your purse or briefcase.

None of that matters to me.

What matters to me and what I am trying to surround myself with is five people who have the mindset I’m looking for to help me be the best person I can be.

  • Tell me how you think.
  • Share your thoughts with me.
  • Share your ideas with me.
  • Tell me about your experiences in life and how those experiences have changed your mindset.
  • Tell me your obstacles in life and how you mentally figured out a way around them.
  • Show me the mental toughness and grit you have to do anything you want in life.
  • Show me that you have a No-Limits Mindset.
  • Show me that you can think for yourself.
  • Show me you have the grit to stand by what you think.

This is the mindset I’m looking for in the five mindsets I want to associate with.

Do you have this mindset?

If so, please leave me a comment below I’d love to talk with you.

P.S. — Jim I hope you don’t mind me modifying your quote a little bit.

“You’re The Average Of The Five Mindsets You Spend The Most Time With.” — Chris Schenk

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