There are two types of people in this world: those that take one step in twenty directions, and those that take twenty steps in one direction.
What separates them is a simple mindset shift. One camp automatically thinks that they have to do things. The other automatically thinks that they choose to do things.
“Success isn’t that difficult; it merely involves taking twenty steps in a singular direction. Most people take one step in twenty directions.” — Benjamin Hardy
Feeling like you have to do things is to be helpless. We need to figure out how to unlearn helplessness.
This happens because there are so many choices out there for us to sort through, and the added weight of social media and the comparison trap makes it feel like we have to follow these trends. …
Anne Frank, while going through a situation no one should ever go through, wrote this remarkable reflection in her diary after looking through the window on a beautiful, sunny day:
“As long as this exists, this sunshine and cloudless sky, and as long as I can enjoy it, how can I be sad?”
She ended up spending 761 days in that secret annex but all it took to put things in perspective was the fact that beauty existed right outside those walls. …
Two days before 2021 began, I hopped on T-Pain’s Twitch stream and got a kick in the right direction. In the middle of a rant about success, here’s something he said that made me re-think my plans for the new year:
“I’ve had 14 #1 songs. I know what it is to chase that. That means I won’t pay attention to my wife and my kids. It’s continuous. The hardest thing about being #1 is staying #1. The only way to stay #1 is to get rid of everything else in your life. You have to focus on being the best. I can’t recommend anything less than that.” …
Richard Overton, who lived until he was 112 years old and was one of America’s oldest veterans, said that there was no secret to a long life; you just had to take it day by night. According to him, how we spend our time from the moment we wake to the second we shut our eyes is vital to longevity.
The average time Americans spent watching TV in 2019 after work was 2.7 hours.
Something we tend to get wrong is the idea that doing absolutely nothing in our free time is a way of resting. When we look forward to lying on the couch after a long day at work, this makes it more likely that we’ll just end up pulling out our phone and turning on a show. …
My mom is now retired and it’s hard for her to get off the couch.
During a conversation over the holidays, she urged me and all of my siblings to take advantage of life when the pandemic ends because our bodies will allow us to. She said these words when explaining why:
“I have so much free time now but I’m trapped by my own body”
In an interview with Joe Rogan, Firas Zahabi explains how focusing on consistency is a much better alternative to focusing on intensity during a workout.
He makes the argument that you should aim to reach a flow state when exercising and this calls for working out at a manageable difficulty that won’t make your body sore. …
I’m not necessarily introverted, but social distancing during the pandemic wasn’t hard for me.
My friend gave me a call during the first few weeks of isolation and he talked about he literally had nothing to do and it was driving him crazy. A fair point, for him and many others, but I couldn’t empathize well enough with the problem.
A quality I have that I’m really thankful for is the need to constantly chase curiosity and to explore new things just for the sake of a new experience. Because of this, I have many solitary hobbies that I enjoy spending time pursuing and, after a time of reflection, I realized that they all played a huge role in safeguarding my mental health during the majority of the pandemic. …
The first half of 2020 de-railed all of my goals for the year. A motivated start ended up turning into a blurry haze and I spent all of my time just making sure I could stay sane.
A realization that hit me during a time of reflection was that this could happen any given year.
We all know it. Life is totally unpredictable and even when a global pandemic doesn’t happen, anyone’s yearly goals could get as equally de-railed due to something else popping up.
I ended up doing a deep dive into past journals throughout the years and I found that most of my yearly goals were never met even in ‘normal times’. …
The first half of 2020 gave me a big tummy. In the second half, I wanted to lose it. There are a million articles out there with complicated advice on how to do this so I kept it simple: I decided to exercise more and eat less.
Surprise! It worked really well, and that’s because I made two simple changes to my eating habits. I stopped eating from plates and I limited all drinks other than water to small glasses. I ran a lot too, but I attribute most of my success to the portion control methods.
First, let me tell you what it’s like to eat in a Filipino household. There are three big meals a day, and they consist of amazing food (a lot of them with high cholesterol) being piled on platters in the middle of the table. Then, you take what you want and put them on your own big plates. Seconds and thirds are common as well. …
10 years ago I started my first blog, published my first post, then deleted my site just days later.
Reason being: Someone told me to find a niche first.
My small brain thought that meant only writing about one topic for the rest of my life. So, my words then stayed in journals that were destined to gather dust on shelves.
If only that person showed me this quote instead:
“After you’ve written 10,000 words, 30,000 words, 60,000 words, 150,000 words, a million words, you will have your voice, because your voice is the stuff you can’t help doing.” …
Everyone knows by now that there is a high statistical chance of failing their New Year’s resolutions.
If we follow route #3, a better way to put ourselves in the best position to succeed might be to set experiments instead of goals.
Matt D’Avella, a highly accomplished filmmaker with over 3 million YouTube subscribers, did exactly that in 2019: He did a 30-day habit experiment each month to see what worked and what didn’t. He assigned one habit to each month of the year and worked hard to do that one habit every day for 30 days. After each month he completely dropped that habit to focus on the next one. …