If I Could Only Go Back…

By Chris Palmer, M.A., Founder FigureOutYourLife.com

A really good friend from high school sent me this picture.

It’s me in 1983 after a cross country race. I just kept looking at it today.

I barely recognize this person I was over 30 years ago. It got me thinking how cool it would be to go back and meet that scared little kid in the picture for just a moment.

I’d want to tell him he was going to be a dad to 4 awesome kids one day and that he was going to find a girl he could trust and that everything was going to be fine.

I’d want to tell him that all the crap you go through in life almost always brings you to a better place. And I’d want to tell him not to be in such a rush to grow up because there is so much to enjoy, and pretty soon it will start going by faster than anyone ever wants.

At this frozen moment he knows none of this.

He can’t.

And maybe that’s just how it all goes.

You just know what you know, and it’s always incomplete.

So you do what you can with what you’ve got. The struggle is what makes you. And love gets you through.

I hope 30 years from now, if I’m lucky enough to be around, maybe I’ll look back and see a guy who was closer to figuring it all out.

Until then, just one more look at this picture. Then I’m going to go hug my kids…


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