The Secret To Finding Joy

By Chris Palmer, M.A.


You know it when you see it. There’s something unmistakable when you are in the presence of joy.

The real stuff.

The kind that shoots off you like pure energy.

The kind that fills a room or fills your heart.

And the more I see it and feel it, the more I know about where it comes from.

It’s like a secret.

Joy comes from that beautiful flow of energy when we feel we are in exactly the right place at exactly the right time in exactly the right way.

So it’s rare, of course. But it doesn’t have to be.

Joy happens when we are completely immersed in a moment — allowing ourselves to swim in the depths of purely existing — without judgment or worry.

And that’s not easy, because we often worry about what people think and how they might view us.

So we filter and edit and censor ourselves in a kind of self-prohibiting prison yard where the truest version of ourselves stays in solitary confinement.

It’s so incredibly sad.

Because when we do get the courage to just be ourselves — when we fully and fearlessly experience and appreciate the entirety of our moments — that’s when the magic happens.

Joy is in that seamless flow of presence and existence in the movement of countless moments.

Now I am no new age energy guru or expert. I coach people to see possibility and choices and to believe in their specialness. But there is an overwhelming truth that is apparent as I watch all of us go through life:

Joy is in the moments when we choose to immerse ourselves in being alive without fear.

You know it when you see it, feel it, taste it.

Certainly we can’t all be so Zen all the time.

But we can have moments. And those moments can build a comfort level with trusting our immersion into moments without fear, following their flow without judgment or worry.

And over time, that way of letting go can lead to more and more moments.

And more joy.

Kids know this without being able to articulate it. It’s how they live until the world beats them down.

But it’s still in you.

It is.

And what a wonderful world it would be if all of us found even a moment of joy each day.

Seven billion people.

Seven billion moments.

And so much joy…

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