Quality Requires Money

A younger friend of mine is getting ready for her wedding. I admire that she’s taking a very practical route in planning one of the most important days of her life. She’s doing without any of the usual frills of a wedding but without really sacrificing her personal standards. Not a lot of young brides-to-be are like her, and it’s not even that she doesn’t have money — she can splurge on her wedding if she wants to.

“I made a list of what’s important to me for the wedding and what’s not,” she told me as we were shopping for make-up. “For the dress, I decided any white, modest dress that looks great on me would do. I don’t intend to bust a lot of money for that — ditto with shoes and accessories. I don’t need bridesmaids as well because they don’t really have any special role in the ceremony. I just need my maid of honor and I will just buy her any dress that looks good on her. Not gonna rent a wedding car, either — our car will do. What’s important for me are the wedding venue, food, the wedding photos and video. For those, I will let money loose.”

“Oh, I thought your friend volunteered her free photography and video services,” I remarked. Her wedding planner told me that someone had volunteered to be in charge of photography and video.

She grinned at me, “Nah, I want professional a professional photography and video service for that. Mike (her fiancé) found a video production company that does commercials and short films that will make our wedding movie. We decided to create a budget for that because it has a longer value than most wedding essentials. We want great quality for pictures and the wedding movie so we’re willing to pay. For everything that’s really important for us, we don’t think twice about paying for quality.”

I agreed, “There are some things that you can take a DIY route for and there are those that really require the experience and skill of professionals. You definitely want your wedding photos and movie to look good. You don’t want your kids going ‘ew’ when they look at your wedding book or watch your wedding movie.”

“I know!” she exclaimed.

We proceeded to gossip about an acquaintance of ours who DIY-ed her entire wedding that her day seemed like an episode of “Extreme Cheapskates.” She regretted that, especially when there was no real great picture taken of her and her new husband on their wedding day.

“She actually messaged the wedding guests to ask if they had taken any good photo of her and her husband. Didn’t she know that people only like to take selfies?” my friend said. “She’s one of the reasons why I decided to plan my wedding the way I’m doing it now. I want a practical wedding but I still want it to be special — hence, the budget for documentation.”

Sensible kid — picked up a lesson from someone’s booboo.

Anyway, good quality truly comes with a price, so if you don’t want to settle for anything less than great, be prepared to dole out.