“The marvelous thing about a good question is that it shapes our identity as much by the asking as it does by the answering.” — David Whyte

Here’s your homework for December.

Instead of getting lost in either the resistance of, or the reveling in, the incessant noise of the holidays, take some time to go deep and access your own wisdom. It’s the perfect time of the year for this. And best of all, the clarity you receive will inform your intentions for the coming year.

Here are five life-changing questions to get you started. Use them in whatever…


Nothing is wrong with you. And yes, you can still succeed in business.

In the Uber-Human, Hyper-Efficient, Success-Driven world of business, little attention is given to emotions. (Have you noticed?) Instead, focus is placed on efficiency, strategy, action, and goals.

What happens, then, is that people who feel deeply or are sensitive find that this approach doesn’t work. We wonder if perhaps we just weren’t meant to be successful or efficient or goal-oriented. Or worse, that something is wrong with us.

Nothing is wrong with you. And yes, you can still succeed in business.

Here are some perspectives from my business journey that may help you navigate your emotions, and quit positioning yourself…


The real issue is not about the idea. The real issue is about DOING IT. And the even realer issue is about fear.

Have you ever said something like this to a friend:

“Okay — I have this idea…

You then spend a good three minutes explaining your idea — and you finish off by asking,]

“…Is that a good idea? Or am I just, like, COMPLETELY freakin’ NUTS?”

So, let’s talk about this little habit for a moment, okay?

Here’s why.

Because…

#1: The IDEA is not the problem.

And #2: YOU are.

If you recognize yourself in that above example, it’s okay. But please understand the REAL ISSUE.

The real issue is not about the idea. The real issue is about…


If you want to serve the planet, then there’s some GIVE and there’s some TAKE.

I feel so freakin’ helpless.

That’s a sentence I overheard as I traveled this past week. It was a conversation about guns and politics…and the feeling of being powerless.

Understandable, of course. But not true. Sure, it’s unlikely that you can singlehandedly end the knee-jerk, anti-everything sentiment that has overtaken certain pockets of society. But, as I posted on my Facebook page, it’s possible that you are here on this planet at this time for a reason…


Emotions are really not that big of a deal when there’s no story to anchor on to them. Emotions just are.

In the Uber-Human, Hyper-Efficient, Success-Driven world of business, little attention is given to emotions. (Have you noticed?) Instead, focus is placed on efficiency, strategy, action, and goals.

Often, what happens is that people who feel deeply or who are sensitive find that such philosophies don’t seem to work. We wonder if perhaps we just weren’t meant to be successful or efficient or goal-oriented. Or worse, that something is wrong with us.

Nothing is wrong with you. And yes, you can still succeed in business. But you enter sticky territory when you start categorizing yourself as “highly sensitive” or “too emotional.”…


Yes, my mind still yammers on like a barfly trying to get laid. But still, I meditate.

I meditate nearly every day. Sometimes for 40 minutes. Sometimes, when time is limited, for just 20 minutes. (I like the longer sessions best.)

No, I don’t get bored.

Yes, my mind still yammers on like a barfly trying to get laid. But still, I meditate.

I started my practice by just starting. No books, no studying. Just meditating 5 minutes a day for one whole month. I used a timer. (See below.)

Then, the over-achiever bossy boss in my head told me I needed to do 10 minutes a day.

Luckily, I know this crazy overachiever well. And I…


A powerful question will stop you in your tracks…Ultimately it will bring you closer to you, where all your best wisdom hangs out.

“The marvelous thing about a good question is that it shapes our identity as much by the asking as it does by the answering.” — David Whyte

Asking powerful questions is how to move deliberately along the winding path toward you. Which is where the real raw deep motivation comes. Not from the outside. But from the inside.

A powerful question will stop you in your tracks. It will make you tilt your head and say, “Well, I never thought about that.” Ultimately it will bring you closer to you, where all your best wisdom hangs out.

Here are five…


In the end, it’s not about being seen at all. It’s about being able to see yourself clearly and simply stand in the power of that.

When I was in 5th grade, I learned how to play “Scarlet Ribbons” on the piano. It was one of my dad’s favorite songs, and I wanted to surprise him, not only by playing it at my end-of-the-year piano recital, but by singing it too.

At the rehearsal for our big recital, I shared my idea with my piano teacher who shouted up at the stage crew to “toss a standing mic up next to the piano!” when I got up for my turn.

In front of an auditorium of students, I took my first ever stab at singing and…


Getting started again is one of the most valuable success skills you can develop.

Here’s what a client said last week. (See if it sounds familiar.)

“Man, I was really on a roll with this project before the summer. But then the kids were home all summer, and we had vacation, and then I had to get Brian off to school and I’m just, I don’t know, not motivated anymore…”

This “project” of hers is a BIG DEAL. Maybe even something that could be a game-changer for her whole business. It was her “thing” for the year.

But then…

Summer happened.

She “lost momentum.”

And along with it, she thinks she’s lost her passion…


It’s a question SO worth asking. And SO worth finding out the answer to.

Years ago, I was hosting a retreat. I was teaching the attendees about decisions and commitment.

Now, we had spent many hours over our three days together getting clarity, setting intention and identifying next steps and big dreams.

I said that in my experience, intention is only the beginning of the movement and the shift. At some point you have to ground your intention with decisions and commitment and action.

Jeannie, a vibrant woman with wild curly hair and a constant smile, looked up and said, “But wait…”

She began listing all the reasons why it was so hard for…

Christine Kane

Risk-taker | Catalyst | Business coach | Company owner | Trainer | Writer

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