The Art of Feeling Inadequate

There are things that people expect you to be.

There are things you think people expect you to be.

There are things you expect you to be.

You might think you should be doing better.

You might think that all of those people are doing way better than you — way smarter, way funnier, way-more-handsome, and way more having-their-shit-together.

You compare yourself to the posts on the FacePlace (FB) and wonder…

…Well, you wonder whatever you wonder.

You want to look good to others. You want to make an impression. You want them to think you’re smart. You want to be impressive, liked, loved, acknowledged and gushed-over.

You want to say the most intelligent and wisest thing ever said. You want to be worthy of their praises, highlights, high reels, and high fives.

You want to stand out but maybe not-so-much that the bar is too high for you to live up to it.

You try to figure out what you’re going to say… ESpecially when they ask you what you do. What if you’re not doing something-or-anything important enough, big enough or life-changing enough — like changing the world, eradicating world hunger, living your purpose and feeling your passion?

Life isn’t about what you do, it’s about how you feel. The doing comes from how you feel.

Achievements or purpose are not a measure of success or enlightenment.

Can you let it be ok to be where you are, how you’re feeling and what you’re thinking?

If you think you should, you think you should, you think you should…be better, smarter, happier, richer, further along, lighter, more successful, or kinder than you are right now — you may as well be taking a stick and beating yourself up with it. Put the stick down for awhile.

You can always keep making new decisions about what you want and how you want to feel. Don’t use where you are on your path to feel bad about where you are on your path. (Remember…the stick?)

Give yourself a break. Let where you are be the perfect place to be. Period.


Originally published at www.christinemeyercoaching.com on November 13, 2015.

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