Steve Martin was utterly within his rights as an actual human being with actual feelings to reflect shortly after Carrie Fisher’s death that when he was a young man, he had a crush on Princess Leia like everyone else did in 1977. He even clarified that as he grew older and wiser, he noticed her for better, purer reasons. This is the deeply human honesty of an aging man reflecting on his youth with fondness that Fisher herself would have taken as a warm gesture. We are not going to make any progress in treating women as real human beings if we deny their very humanity with the same stroke, nor if we fail to accept that men are real human beings too. It is simply inaccurate to conflate such fond remembrances with judging a woman solely on her appearance. The only thing that shouldn’t have happened here is Martin shouldn’t have deleted his sweet tweet.