Thank you so much for sharing this with me. This is really moved me. My older son is 17 and I am going through the “letting go” stage of parenting with him (he was the one driving when the poem came to me). I am fortunate that he and I have a relationship that is also a friendship. The same is true for my younger son, but it is different with him. He is eleven and still clinging to boyhood. So with him I’m still in the “holding” stage with him.
You remind me some of my father. He and my mom live in the same town where my brother and I have our families. But I think that if we were separated by geography, Dad would likely adopt children the way you have. God bless you for reaching out to the kids around you!