I regret to inform you that you’re a loser
But the good news is that you can change that
Motivation is Not for The Weak of Heart
Others may say differently, but in life, there are winners and there are losers. You subconsciously make the choice to be a loser, and you consciously make the choice to be a winner. Being the winner is not about getting 1st place in the race or being the smartest person in the office, it’s about actively and continuously putting in effort to improve yourself. If you’re not putting in the work, then I regret to inform you that you’re the loser, but the good news is that you can change that.
If you’re trying to win every game in every sport, I can tell you that you’re going to lose every one of them. Without focus in life you’re just drifting without a map.
A person has a fixed amount of focus, and personally I put my focus towards activities that I enjoy or disciplines that I want to excel at. I give all of my focus to these activities/disciplines and personally I like to give 100% commitment. This is my style. I like to master a discipline or know everything about a subject. I can have a maximum of two hobbies, but when I’m 100% on at work and my two hobbies, it’s hard. Find the balance that works for you. This takes time.
The idea here is to concentrate on your goals.
Commit to Goals
If you don’t have any goals then you’re sprinting with no destination in mind. You need to know what you want. No one else is going to know for you. No one is going to give you your dream job without you putting in the effort. Without goals, you won’t even know what that dream job is, even if it was handed to you.
Your goal doesn’t have to be to win the Tour De France, but if you’re training to get faster on the bike, then what are you getting faster for? Remember that even wanting to be faster than all your friends is a goal.
Figure out your goals, have a plan of attack and hold yourself accountable.
Have a Plan
I’d rather follow the idiot into battle with a plan, than the genius without one.
You choose your path and you choose your plans. Make plans on how to achieve your goals, because I promise you, no one else is going to make these plans for you.
If your goal is to get faster on the bike then that means you need to start training. So to get the ball rolling you start researching cycling training regimens, then after that you create a regimen with fitness goals in a certain time frame. See if this works for you, and if not, be agile and make changes.
It’s important to have a plan and stick to it, but remember that things can change quickly and plans and goals can look differently over time. It’s important to realize that in life, as you grow, your goals will change, and that’s a good thing. Be agile and adjust your plans according to your goals.
So you’ve stuck to your training regimen, reached your goal of being faster than your friends, but now what? Maybe you’re interested in taking up racing, so you go and watch a local bike race and talk with the person who won 2nd place. You talk to them about how they started cycling competitively and how they love and hate racing at the same time. You gain perspective, and perspective is invaluable to decision making.
If you’re really trying to be agile then you’re constantly in pursuit of perspective.
Strive to Gain Perspective, Constantly
Don’t make mountains out of mole hills. Keeping things in perspective will certainly help you make the right decisions.
Problems always seem bigger to the person on the inside than those on the outside. It’s good to step away to gain perspective. Try taking a walk or talking to someone outside your circle of friends. Take all of your focus off the matter at hand.
Keeping the bigger picture in mind will always help bring you back down to reality. Everyday I remind myself that I could die at any moment and just this thought creates a greater idea that the problems I have today may not matter tomorrow. Becoming seriously ill will always trump losing your job.
The point is, search for the perspective that keeps you focused. Gain perspective by always staying curious.
Stay Curious, Always
Invest in yourself. I can’t stress this enough. It may feel like you’re talking to yourself if you’re trying to learn German, or you may feel like an infant taking its first steps by trying to learn how to code in Python, but investing in yourself is what you need to do to get ahead. The more people I meet in life the more I realize how most are just coasting through it. Do you really want to coast through the one life you get?
Investing in your education is important and of course going to college is great. You’ll learn from the books and the “college experience”, but so many people stop investing in themselves immediately after they graduate. It’s not about enrolling in classes, or reading textbooks, it’s about staying curious and proactive about learning more. Every, single, day I try to find inspiration, stay informed, and reach new personal improvement heights. Whether that’s becoming a better listener, learning to ride a skateboard or being able to name each tree in my backyard.
Stay curious, and read… a lot. Don’t sleep, because others are gaining momentum. And if you don’t think you’re competitive, guess what. Others are.
Don’t Give up, Ever
Find motivation where others find discomfort. Your life will be full of people who want to see you fail. I believe that unless a person is directly connected with you, people want to see you succeed only to a level that’s just below them. So really when you think about it, it’s the same as them wanting to see you fail. People are going to laugh at you, tell you your ideas are awful and constantly let you know you’re making mistakes. Stop listening and stay focused on your goals. Their negativity is helping them feel better about them being losers.
What I‘ve Been Saying the Whole Time
I want to stress that there isn’t one right path in life. If you want to earn a living from your Medium posts, then you set that goal, if you want to be the best person you can be by giving 80% of your time to a humanitarian cause, then all the power to you, or if you want to be the best parent to your child, then do it. But I whole heartedly implore you to question everything and think about what truly makes you happy. Ask yourself what do you want out of life. Because I can promise you that one day you are going to die, and when that time comes, it’ll become very clear that all the external problems that seemed so important were only in your mind.