I think you’re definitely on to something when you say that gender plays a role in the functionality of borderline. I know how I can be and that at times I do feel like I’m worthless but that’s the disorder talking.
You are also more correct than I think you can imagine when you say about the brain not being able to turn off etc. There is a definite chemical reason for it as well, I was put on an antidepressant that completely messed with the chemicals in my brain and sent me haywire. Now I’m on the correct medication I’ve levelled our a lot.
I overthink and overanalyse everything, and it can come across as obsession. Honestly, it’s a nightmare. I’m learning how to relax more and uncouple my thoughts from my processes.
Thank you for your response, I’m always interested and open to have discussions about this subject.