My wife and I were talking yesterday and she made a comment that perception is everything when it comes to the content I put out. That maybe I make it look easier than it is and that if people only knew that I get tired, frustrated and work way more than even you guys see…they’d maybe get a different picture.
It got me thinking this morning on my drive in…. do I want this to look easy? No, I never have. …
When Gratitude meets irony, you get a medium blog.
This whole pandemic has brought on a whole new level of productivity, of reaching my limits, evolving in different areas than maybe any of us thought possible. None have become more clear to me than being the husband and father your family needs at a time like this.
I wear several hats that, from the outside looking in, might seem important. But they pale in comparison to the importance of being a good father and a good husband. …
I can’t believe I’m saying this but I hear a lot of my father in this quote. The internal, emotional struggle I’m having as I type this though is the undebatable fact that this quote is a mantra to me…
The apple really doesn’t fall too far from the tree I guess… no, no I don’t believe that for a second.
My dad was a bitter guy and took the joy out of pretty much everything in my youth. If I played a sport and didn’t score the most goals on the team he’d ask me ‘why am I even playing then?’ …
Well there’s a kick in the groin all in one title huh? Before you’re like “F#$% this guy”, let me go on a rant…. then you may rant… except I’m not reading yours…
We’ve all got dreams, ambitions and a list a mile long of all the things we’re going to do once we “make it”. How you’ll dress, dine, entertain, the car you’ll drive and the persona you’ll have. You’ve got it all worked out except two little tiny things: A plan and the willingness to execute.
So I’ll save you a tonne of time and fast forward to the end of your story for…
I want to believe that I go to work everyday for a purpose. Not just the standard purpose, that I provide time and effort in exchange for compensation, (If THAT is what my life one day erodes to then the next thing you’ll read with my name on it is my obituary!). It’s to add value to all those around me.
Now, I know what you’re thinking, that was a pretty cliché answer but let me elaborate. When you’re given a leadership position, whether via promotion or you start your own company, you’ve been given a responsibility, a power.
You have the ability to lift people up or completely tear them down. You can literally alter their lives, financially, emotionally, physically. You’ve been given the privilege to manipulate their environment (hopefully for the better), to internally make them excited to start their day or dread it. You dictate their decisions within their family, their relationships, their feelings towards themselves and the ambitions they have, all by the employment you provide. …
I’m gonna go a different direction today and talk about my hiring process. I’ve been very fortunate that, in my career so far, I’ve always been able to surround myself with the absolute best people. People that no matter what, they always have your back. Trust is an extremely important ingredient if you’re working to accomplish something great. Knowing your team mates will follow through and that doing the right thing above all else is their North Star is invaluable.
I don’t do resumes. I don’t even care what’s on there. Have a degree? Perfect, you’ve proven that either your parents had 50K saved or that you have the necessary skills to acquire student loan debt, bravo. But what’s your answer when I ask you about a scenario where winning means cutting a few “innocent corners” and losing means we walked away knowing we held firm to our values? …
But WHY is it such a difficult concept to understand? Especially in the mortgage broker and property managment spaces, if you don’t understand this statement, you are going to lose.
In the mortgage arena, with regulation changes that continuously seem to favour the banks, margins getting tighter having to be rate competitive and banks approving deals outside a brokers scope, you have to go on offence where they can’t and won’t go.
Touch the heart.
Make friendships, make them smile, make them laugh, make it memorable. Keep in touch but make it authentic and personal. A random, but yet routine, check in call is great…. I guess. Seeing on social media their kid just won the championship game and then sending a inexpensive gift congratulating them on the win makes you their “Go To” for life, not to mention the referrals.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ …
Forget just random motivational crap. I’m not kidding here guys, a lot can happen in one year. So many people won’t start because they get worn down by how daunting the road ahead looks. Here’s a real life recap of my last year:
Sold my business I put years into making ✔️
Sold our home ✔️
Left all our friends and family and moved across the country to Vancouver BC ✔️
Became the youngest President in the Canadian Mortgage Broker industry ✔️
Found out we were pregnant when years, multiple doctors and tests told us that was never going to be able to happen. …
So a funny thing happened Wednesday evening. It was funny for a few minutes and then it ended up causing me a lot of grief and wasted time. I was mad, like really, really mad. I’m all for a practical joke, anyone that knows me, knows that I have a good sense of humor, even a bit twisted. Okay, fine, REALLY twisted but not when it comes at the expense of jeopordizing my business or the ability to service my customers. But first, let me give you some context…
I left home on Tuesday afternoon and was going to be in Winnipeg for a few days. I had a home buying seminar in Selkirk which was a small and intimate session but people left with a ton of value and I’m happy to say I have a few new clients. Wednesday was meetings with some great realtors, meetings with our Winnipeg broker and a few other things on the agenda. (I can’t tell you everything but there’s some big things going on!). Wednesday night was the Winnipeg Jets game which was amazing to see live. That’s a moment in life I will never forget, I’ve never seen so much passion and appreciation for a sports team from their fans. Thursday was a board meeting as a member of the Manitoba Broker Council then finally, finally I’d get to come home. DISCLAIMER: I tend to miss my wife more than any man should and I’m not afraid to admit it. …
Okay so here’s the deal, I had no idea what parenting entailed. I thought I knew but boy was I wrong and I’m not afraid to admit that.
It’s just so damn hard! The lack of sleep, the complete feeling of helplessness when you can’t figure out what they need, the patience and self control to constantly remind yourself that you’ve got to keep going, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
But it’s also the best, by a long shot.
I’m not use to being affectionate, it has a lot to do with losing everyone early on and hardening up to survive. I have a hard time functioning within the “family” unit. It’s foreign, restrictive and frustrating to me. Now I can’t wait to wake up and have family time on the bed. I love to pick Piper up and say good morning. The words… feel different… I genuinely want her to have a good morning. I want her to have everything. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So amongst all the other chaos going on the biggest change for me is…. me. P-Dog, my nickname for her, is a motivation on a whole other level to do better, want better, be better. …