Three pillars of a relationship!
I had a fruitful debate with one of my friend on what are the three pillars of a relationship.She strongly stated it’s Love,Love and Love.
Is she right? Yes,she is.
But is she completely right? Maybe not!
There are 3 equally important pillars of relationship.Love is the third and easiest pillar. The unconditional love is the key for a long and prosperous relationship.
Now we will think about the other two.What are those pillars?
How do you get into a relationship? Is it a “Love at first sight” kind? Is it an arranged one by family? Is it a best friend into life partner kind?
- What if your partner had a past relationship?
- What if your partner had a bad past?
- What if your partner has too many financial crisis?.
- What if your partner had insecurity or high pressure of employment?
- What if your partner had a bad habit?
- What if your partner is not meeting your expectations?
None of the above question is hypothetical.Everyone have to answer most of the above questions in life.Asking these questions(there will be many more) is the first step of a relationship.(we are not talking about finding out your partner as it is strictly personal).And hence the first pillar of a relationship is Understanding.
Once you understood your partner half of the job is done.You know about your life partner,his/her likes and dislikes,habits,character,attitude and mostly everything.There comes the second pillar.As of my thinking this is the most difficult pillar. Acceptance!
You have to accept your partner as he/she is. Betterments and corrections should be suggested.But never force your better half to be only as you wish.
Once you accepted your partner love him/her will be easy.Love after understanding and acceptance will be unconditional.