Thank you for reading, and for writing. I’m glad you read some (or all) of the comments too. They are fascinating. The article definitely struck a nerve in lots of folks. I think the way you describe your loving is just right. The men I describe in the article did not love this way. They were incapable of that kind of constancy and consistency. They lacked stability, the very thing you describe. 81 and still loving — that is an inspiration. I’ve been thinking a lot about love and aging. Yes… words can be so damaging. Lately, I’m thinking it’s better not to make big pronouncements such as telling someone they’re our perfect mate. No one is perfect. And statements like that add immense pressure. There’s no need. Actions speak louder than words.