I whole heartedly agree with you. I am 31 have a 2 1/2 year old, have a mortgage, been with my partner for 5 years.
I mean… What is a “wedding” but documents. I mean sure we plan on getting married, but just thinking about planning a wedding gives me anxiety. Its all pomp and ceremony. Don’t get me wrong, I want to get married, and I plan on it… but… It’s seeming more and more like paper and debt.