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For the last couple years, I’ve been a huge advocate for the ketogenic diet.

And with good reason: I lost over 70 lbs using the diet, going from a burly dad-bod of 325 to a fairly svelte 255.

There’s all kinds of information out there on the keto diet as its pound shedding prowess becomes more well known — if you want more information on my tactics, meals, hacks, etc, just click on the links.

But be warned dear reader, for as I’ve found recently, the keto diet is not a cure-all.

Not because it doesn’t work. It does. But only insofar as you maintain the discipline to stick to it, and monitor your…


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If you’re frustrated with modern dating, welcome to the crowd. In an age where we’re more likely to meet on a screen than IRL, we text instead of a making a phone call, and honest rejection has been replaced by the void of ghosting, it can sometimes feel hopeless.

However, if you’re doing one of the following 10 things, you’re part of the problem — and if you’re not, perhaps you’ll enjoy the catharsis of what you’ve surely seen out there as a single.

1. You only meet people through SOD (swipe/online dating).

That may sound weird, because this has become the norm in terms of how we date and hook up, but if the only way you meet people is by swiping away on Tinder or Bumble or any of the other apps, you’re unlikely to find a long term, stable relationship. …


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A delicious keto sandwich.

When I tell people I’m on the ketogenic diet, the first thing they say is usually: “I don’t think I could give up bread.” Some say pasta or potatoes or rice or ice cream, but bread is by far the number one answer.

But when I tell them I don’t really miss bread all that much anymore, the next objection is: “Isn’t it hard to eat like that day to day, week to week?”

My answer: a firm “no.”

And that’s the truth — if you’re willing to think outside the box, there are any number of food combinations that are high in fat and protein without those pesky carbs. …


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“Ewwww! I don’t like that!”

“Just try it this once!”

“No!”

“Just one little bite?”

“No!”

“But you don’t even know what it tastes like…”

At some point when we were younger, we all had conversations like this with our parents — and if you’re a parent and you’re kid is older than 3, you’ve definitely had this conversation in reverse.

Perhaps there doesn’t seem to be a clear connection to dating here, but it’s actually not all that dissimilar. …


a chapter from Say Yes, a novel.

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She swam up the last chute of rapids into the tailout and the pool above.

There in the calm water she relaxed her smooth, powerful lateral muscles, silver-red scales running from cheek to tail, pearl-white belly bulging underneath — but her blue-green back, peppered with irregular splotches of coal black, made the fish invisible to all but the keenest eyes above the surface.

Here she waited, resting as the sun fell below the line of the blurry green bushes and willows that swarmed the banks.

Others, too, were swimming under the moonlight that first night, waiting silently, silver ghosts hovering in the tranquil water. …


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Guess what I didn’t eat?

Listen to the podcast (also available on iTunes — chuckingrocks), or watch on YouTube.

Anyone who’s done the ketogenic diet knows that most of the food available to us is shit — carbs, processed sugar, loads of preservatives and other nasty things. Seriously, there’s a reason people get fat, and a big reason is because they bring and/or eat the carby, sugary foods everyone decides to bring to work.

So, in the spirit of helping my ketogenic brothers and sisters, here are some hacks you can use to eat well and stay keto:

1) Keep snacks on hand

Hard boiled eggs, nuts, beef jerky, etc. It’s super key to have a stash of snacks — at work, home, in the car, etc. — available so that if hunger calls, you can answer. …


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Courtesy of UnSplash: Toa Heftiba.

It seems that in the era of social media, smart phones, and dating apps, ghosting is a regular feature in the world of modern romance — indeed, sometimes even in relationships that are purely platonic.

Quick reminder for the old folks: ghosting is when a person you’re interacting with drops off the map and stops communicating — whether it’s after a few short messages after matching on swipe/online dating (SOD — don’t recommend this btw), up to an actual relationship that may or may not have involved sex.

What I find troubling is that we seem to accept ghosting with a shrug of the shoulders — that the person ghosting is somehow justified in doing so (this seems especially true when the ghoster is a woman), or even that the person being ghosted is somehow at fault. …


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Courtesy of Wiktor Karkocha on unsplash.

OK, so what I want us to look at here is how the dynamics of the dating marketplace function on SOD (swipe/online dating), and why those dynamics mean that for most of us, apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and the rest don’t work very well.

Part One: Men are thirsty AF

On Tinder alone, consider this: on average, men swipe right on 46% of potential matches; women swipe right on 14%. It’s reasonable to assume that there’s a similar dynamic playing out on other platforms, so what does this mean?

It means that in general, women are going to match far more often than men, which over time means that women are in a state of abundance and men are in a state of scarcity — and this is especially true when comparing those at equal levels of attractiveness. Think of it this way: a woman who’s say, a seven on looks, is going to have far more options than a man who’s a seven (no, I don’t think we should apply numbers to someone’s attractiveness, but there’s no other way to make the point objectively). …


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SJWs believe this kid should never open his mouth… because of his sex and race. Ironic, no?

I recently published a piece criticizing writers on Medium who are what I call spam-bloggers: people who pump out content as fast as possible for the purpose of making a buck.

I stand by the piece, and I certainly expected blowback — but I have to say I was surprised at the form that blowback took.

You see, it wasn’t so much that people disagreed with my overall point, it’s that I’m “privileged.” It wasn’t that what I said was wrong, but that I shouldn’t say it, because I’m a white, heterosexual man. There was even one critic who felt it necessary to scold me by posting the now infamous Gillette ad in the body of his response, and below: “shame on you Jeff Allen.” …


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Yeah, she’s over it bro.

Recently a woman I was dating stopped seeing me because: “I don’t want to be your Wednesday girl.”

And I was like, “baby I’m not a player I just crush a lot.”

Kidding.

No in all seriousness, I told her the truth: she wasn’t my Wednesday girl.

Because there was no Wednesday girl. Nor a Tuesday girl. Nor a Thursday girl.

The sad truth is kids, I didn’t even have a Saturday girl at the time.

No, I was actually at the time completely single and not dating anyone. Granted, this is rare for me, and I don’t believe in monogamous dating (let’s not be ridiculous — and I’m not opposed to monogamy necessarily, but there has to be a conversation at some point), but it was odd to be accused of being a player when I was playing by…

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Jeff Allen

Human. Existentialist. Author. Storyteller. Teacher. Blogging at Medium & ChuckingRocks.com:I see the world as it is… and will be.

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