Wrong place at the wrong time
Is it human nature to sympathize with victims and their families only after we make sure they didn’t simply get what was coming to them?


“Humans have a fundamental need to create and maintain a narrative for their lives in which the universe is not implacable and heartless, that terrible things do not happen at random, and that catastrophe can be avoided if you are vigilant and responsible.”
That‘s clinical psychologist Ed Hickling from a Pulitzer Prize-winning article about parents who have accidentally left their children to die in a hot car.
“We want to believe that the world is understandable and controllable and unthreatening, that if we follow the rules, we’ll be OK. So, when this kind of thing happens to other people, we need to put them in a different category from us. We don’t want to resemble them, and the fact that we might is too terrifying to deal with.”
When Zoe Hastings was kidnapped and killed in East Dallas, TX in October 2015, the rumor mill at once began churning. It was a probably guy she knew. A secret boyfriend, maybe. Deep down we wanted it to be true. We didn’t want this angelic 20-year-old to be following the rules. We didn’t want her to be like us or our own children, or god forbid better than us. But she was. As her tragic story unfolded, we learned she was an innocent, nabbed while returning a children’s movie she had watched the previous day with her younger siblings. Once we knew these things, we released with full force our outrage and altruism—we joined police in canvassing the neighborhood for clues and raised tens of thousands of dollars for the Hastings family.


It was shortly after the Hastings tragedy, and subsequent arrest of a suspect, that the Advocate received an email from a Lake Highlands reader about another young homicide victim from the same neighborhood, David Pimentel, who was gunned down as he stood in the front yard of a friend’s house.
I’d never heard of him.
Turns out that the unwritten ruling on David Pimentel’s situation was far different from that of Zoe Hastings. The public, media and police detectives found ways to blame 22-year-old David for his own fate. While he did not deserve to be shot in the back for no discernible reason, he did do things to garner public disapproval and lack of empathy. His mistake: Standing on a sidewalk in Pleasant Grove, a danger zone known for gang violence.
Nevermind that he was in that neighborhood visiting his good friend from Bishop Lynch Catholic High School. Forget that they—determined to win their next recreational soccer match—had hit the gym in Lake Highlands earlier that day. Ignore the fact that this friend’s mother worked hard every evening to prepare a nice meal for her family, or that she regularly welcomed guests like David with open arms.
In deciding whether David’s murder warranted the sort of public attention and grief and outpouring of support mustered in the aftermath of Zoe’s death, public opinion determined that David did not qualify. He was not following the rules. He was neither vigilant nor responsible. He was “other people,” not us.
Of course David’s mother feels no less anguish than Zoe’s parents feel. The friend who watched him die suffers no less depression or insomnia than if David had been slaughtered in a nice, middle-class, predominately white neighborhood.
Gail Pimentel says she knows her son David had forgiven his murderer before his body hit the ground.
“That’s what I would tell them if I could talk to them,” she says of the killers. “And I would tell them that I am not that big a person. I am not as forgiving as him. You took the only thing that was truly good in my life. That is what I would say.”
She also wants to tell people things she probably shouldn’t need to say — that David’s life mattered and that he didn’t deserve to die.
“David was a true friend who never spoke anything but kind words and loved to laugh.”
“People want to know why he was there, in that part of town. They think he was on drugs and got himself killed,” she says. “The truth is he was visiting a friend, a friend who’d been his classmate at Bishop Lynch. They’d been to the gym and played basketball and had just finished dinner with his [friend’s] family. No, He was not on drugs. He was good. The best person I’ve ever known.”
Life cut short
David Pimentel grew up in a house across the street from Wallace Elementary School, where he and his buddies often shot hoops. He started elementary school in East Dallas at St. Bernard’s before transferring to St. Patrick’s Catholic School in Lake Highlands, where he belonged to Boy Scout Troop 719. He excelled on the soccer team at Bishop Lynch High School, where he graduated in 2010. He was fast, a natural athlete. He was quiet and a good listener, his friends say, quick-witted, always ready with a joke or quip, but never at the expense of another’s feelings.
“David was a true friend who never spoke anything but kind words and loved to laugh,” his friend, Nick Bedenkop, told a huge crowd at David’s funeral.
Before his death at age 22, David was earning a double major in finance and accounting at University of Texas at Dallas, while working fulltime as a supervisor at Kohl’s department store.
In her grief support group, Gail learned about the stigma attached to murder, she says. People do not want to think it could happen to them, to them, or their child, which is why they find a way to blame the victim.
“You know, wrong place, wrong time, bad neighborhood, they say. Even the police — I feel like the police don’t give a, you know. I had raised him not to go [to that part of Pleasant Grove] due to the danger, but he loved the De La Pax family, and they treated him as their own.”
It happened at 9:30 p.m. July 28, 2014 outside the family home of Charber De La Pax. David and Charber were standing at the corner of Utica Drive and Tillman Street, just 100-feet from the De La Pax’s front door, when a car slowed and passed.
Detective Tim Stewart, the 30-year veteran of the Dallas Police Department who is investigating the case, says he wishes the boys had taken notice of that car and gone inside.
“You see a car roll slowly by in that neighborhood, you have to pay attention. They didn’t.”
Moments later, the car returned, two men emerged, at least one of them brandishing a gun.
“It was dark, so all our witness saw was two black men, one tall, the other kind of short,” Stewart says.
They demanded wallets and phones. David handed his property over promptly. Charber had nothing to give. In a second, the armed robbers and the victims were fleeing their separate ways, but Charber began hollering at his father to help, to call 9–1–1, Stewart recounts.
Stewart guesses the thieves didn’t like that, and one opened fire, probably not intending to kill.
“If they had meant to shoot them, they would have. This was a fluke shot. It hit the street and fragmented. The bullet hit Pimentel in the back, and the jacket hit the other kid in the leg.”
The suspects ran and hopped in the vehicle, a white, four-door sedan, according to De La Pax’s testimony.
Early on, Stewart says he followed a few leads. Detectives located what they believed to be the getaway car; it was involved in a crime at NorthPark Center earlier on the same day David was killed.
Detectives brought the owner, a woman, in for questioning, but she refused to talk.
“Do I believe she knows something? Yes,” Stewart says.
But there is this code of silence in high-crime neighborhoods.
“Sometimes someone who gets jammed up will tell something they know [in exchange for leniency], but seldom does anyone just snitch. That is still looked down upon in these neighborhoods.”
At that point, Stewart says, the case hit a dead end.
There was no evidence that the woman was in the vehicle and at the crime scene.
Aside from a fractured bullet and a casing, police have no forensics to lead them to a suspect.
“The case is open, not considered a cold case yet, because I have not given up on it,” Stewart says. But he is frank about the prospect of finding a killer a year and a half after the crime — not good.
High- versus low-profile murder
One of Gail Pimentel’s close friends contacted the Advocate about David’s murder right after police arrested the suspected killer of 18-year-old Lake Highlands resident Zoe Hastings last October.
She believed telling David’s story might help police find his killer. “Very little press coverage has been given to the Pimentel case,” she says.
David’s murder was reported only in the Dallas Morning News, sharing a single column with another southern Dallas shooting.
The story of Zoe Hastings, who was abducted and murdered in the White Rock area, dominated headlines, TV broadcasts and social media feeds for two solid weeks as five detectives and an entire city searched for her killer and raised tens of thousands of dollars to support her family, which includes four siblings.
Grieving mother Gail Pimentel does not begrudge them. She feels nothing but sorrow and empathy for a family that has suffered a loss like hers.
But she is very angry, she says — at the scum who killed her son, at the police who haven’t tracked him down, at a city that fails to fix South Dallas’ crime problem, at gossipy parents who implied David caused his own death and the fact that his murder received so little attention, to name a few things, she says.
But the thing about publicity is that is doesn’t help as much as you might think, Stewart says.
“Yes, you get a ton of tips coming in [which is, by the way] why you have to bring in extra detectives, because you have to follow up on every tip, but it is not usually a tip that solves a case. Hardly ever, in my experience,” says Stewart.
In the Zoe Hastings case, he explains, detectives had solid DNA evidence to work from. That is how they caught the Hastings suspect, he says.
“I’m not saying it can’t help. We want public help, we follow up on all leads, in few cases it does lead to an arrest,” he says. And there is reward money available for information leading to an arrest in the Pimentel case, he adds.
Finding closure in a cold case
A murder of a young woman in our neighborhood captured more public attention than that of a young man in South Dallas. But the pain felt by a parent who loses a child is limitless, no matter the circumstances.
“You must relish and fight through its pain and conquer it, grow, and then joy will come again.”
Gail Pimentel’s Lake Highlands home is crowded. She calls her hoarding tendencies “my pathos.” But there is an order to the wood-carved statues of saints and angels, stacks of books (one called “God is in the tough stuff” is stacked near a vintage Nancy Drew mystery), children’s toys and sprawling colorfully painted canvasses. She has cut a careful path through the middle of everything, to her bedroom, where an urn containing David’s ashes rest on a bedside table, surrounded by pictures of the handsome, smiling, glowing child.
If David’s case goes unsolved, Gail is left to live alone, without her only child and with no one at whom to direct her rage.
She and David’s father divorced when David was little, and, she says, they do not speak much.
She knows she needs to keep living, keep fighting, but how?
She has her faithful dog, Reese, who is always at her side, inching closer to her anytime she seems upset.
“David loved this dog; this dog loved David,” she says.
She bounces from anger to wistful memories as she talks, sometimes through tears, about her son — how they would watch the skyline over White Rock Lake on the way to school, and discuss the weather; how every year before his birthday they would talk about the worst and best moments of the past year; how he wanted to earn a masters degree and teach sports to his own kids someday.
She goes as often as she can — maybe once a month — to the Grief and Loss Center of North Texas sessions at Wilshire Baptist Church. She has a few good, supportive friends. She is an artist, and finds some catharsis in that, too.
On a piece of paper, she has written down a Shelly Winters quote. She hands it over and says she likes to jot down quotes that describe how she feels.
“Life, even with its misery, is still life,” it reads. “You must relish and fight through its pain and conquer it, grow, and then joy will come again.”
Anyone with information related to the David Pimentel murder should call 214.373.TIPS or the Dallas Police Department Homicide Unit at 214.671.3661.