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I read this phrase the other day, a phrase which often floats into the lexicon.

Progress, not perfection.

It got me thinking about the lightness of the former versus the weightiness of the latter.

Simply put:

Perfection is rigid and inflexible. Progress is fluid and open.

Perfection is exhausting. Progress is invigorating.

Perfection wears a mask. Progress is transparent.

Perfection is endless because you never get there. Progress is endless because you’re always there.

Perfection focuses on what’s not working, the flaws, the not-enoughs and the old paradigms.


Life Lessons from the Turtle

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“I’m procrastinating,” I said. “It’s my inner nemesis.” As soon as I said it, I got a stomach ache, like I was revealing and also judging an integral part of myself.

And, my brilliant writer friend said, “Process is tricky.” Ah, you said a mouthful there, sister.

A few days earlier I’d received an intuitive reading from the wise Dina Strada. One of the hits she got was that “things are going to take longer than you think.” And, I thought, Grrr. How much longer? …


Stop Saying This, for Starters

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“I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing.”

Those were the first words uttered by a client during a recent creative jam session. Which made sense because we were there to jam about the very thing that was underneath the question: life purpose.

In fact, the words “supposed to” drove the first part of our session, it was said 10 times in the first 20 minutes to be exact. It felt like something that was easy to hang on to, like a habit.

So, doing what we do in jam sessions, we played with the things that were bubbling…


Not Doing This Will Only Lead to Dissatisfaction and Frustration

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“I’ll have what she’s having.” ~ When Harry Met Sally

I often marvel at my successful friends. I’m blessed to be surrounded by people who are riding at or near the top of their game, continually reinventing themselves and expanding their capacities for the big lives they’re meant to live.

And, as a person who is continuing to unfold and evolve herself in midlife, watching them brings on a myriad of thoughts and emotions and actions. For one thing, it can be intoxicating! And, riveting. And, thought-provoking.

And, inspiring. And sometimes I think, maybe if I emulate a few of…


It’s Always What You Need to Hear

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“Does your soul have a message for you today?”

That was the question the meditation teacher asked during session.

It turns out my soul did. It often does, when I’m paying attention.

Usually, the messages are so simple I almost miss them. Or I judge them. Or second guess them. That morning, I decided to just shut up and receive what was given to me. By my soul. Yep. I wasn’t judging it, or questioning whether it really was my soul guiding me, nor was I second guessing it, “Are you sure that’s all?” …


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“I’ll have what she’s having.” ~ When Harry Met Sally

I often marvel at my successful friends. I’m blessed to be surrounded by people who are riding at or near the top of their game, continually reinventing themselves and expanding their capacities for the big lives they’re meant to live.

And, as a person who is continuing to unfold and evolve herself in midlife, watching them brings on a myriad of thoughts and emotions and actions. For one thing, it can be intoxicating! And, riveting. And, thought-provoking.

And, inspiring. And sometimes I think, maybe if I emulate a few of…


7 Steps to Get There

Spring is in the air. I had the pleasure of experiencing the first week of Spring in four different states. On a cross-country road trip with my sister, we drove a car load of my family treasures that were stored at her home in Austin to my home in Los Angeles, passing through West Texas, New Mexico, Arizona and California. I’m still mining the rich gems from that trip…

When I got home, I entered into some Spring cleaning in order to make room for said treasures. That meant cleaning out closets and drawers. It was at times mindless work…


A Poem for Love in Midlife

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I met you mid-sentence.

In the beginning of a paragraph.
At the end of a chapter.
Or was it on the first page of a new chapter?
They kind of blur together, life’s chapters.

I do remember we were both in similar chapters.

What does it mean to meet at this time in our lives?
When life is a series of run-on sentences
When attention is pulled by the tug of a sleeve
Or a question that leads to another train of thought.

Things are sometimes missed
When we’re focused on the people we love,
The people we love the most…


Some Gold Mined From the Hardest Lessons

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“Where are the cars parked?” I asked the valet attendant.

“Behind the restaurant, inside a garage,” he said.

“So it’s secure? I have my computer in here,” I said.

“Yes,” he said and nodded.

For whatever reason, I felt safe enough to take his word for it. To trust.

Two hours later, you guessed it, when the same driver brought my car back around, the passenger window had been shattered and the one thing taken out of my car was the leather bag containing my MacBook Pro, which had been placed in the dark bag on the black floor, in…


It’s the Way to a Life on Purpose

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I was naked from the waist up, except for a thin paper vest that opened in the front. I felt very vulnerable and not a little bit nervous.

The technician was kind, but definitely was moving through her day by rote, and seemed bored when moments before she’d called my name in the waiting room, introducing herself in a monotone voice. “I’m Julie. I’ll be doing your echo-cardiogram.”

A few weeks earlier I’d been driving across Los Angeles when I suddenly had no idea where I was, literally didn’t know what city I was in nor what day or time…

Cindy S. Yantis

Storyteller. Creativity coach. I write about life’s metaphors, creativity & midlife purpose. Proud aunt. Pet mama. https://linktr.ee/cindyluhu28

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