This post was recommended to me by my brother, who is the parent of a 7 year old. He and his wife both work high-demand jobs that includes travel. My sister in law is usually the one who reaches out to me when they need some childcare coverage, but a change happened starting last year: she began cc-ing my brother on the emails. My guess was she was doing what Weiss described, she needed him to own some of that work too. Now the three of us regularly communicate through the planning, and this week, he and I had a whole separate conversation about a reschedule. I was proud of him! It also gave me a chance to validate him, because it is still expected that the moms do most of this home front work. I told him too that it was okay for him to tell the person he was meeting with that he needed to work through some childcare scheduling, because like Weiss rightly points out these conversations should be normalized at the office, and men are the ones to both lead and support a culture that supports family.
I’m not a parent, but I’m a part of the childcare team for my nephew. The more we can help each other, the healthier for all workers and families.