PinnedMember-onlyMy Side, Your SideWhy Understanding Someone’s Perspective Can Build Empathy — Originally published in Selfscience.org, edited on 11/17/23, and additional topics added. Is there a viewpoint that you adamantly disagree with? Maybe there is a family member who has a different political viewpoint, and it drives you crazy whenever they open their mouth? …Personal Development3 min readPersonal Development3 min read
Oct 30No! No! No!How This One Word Can Change Your Life — “No!” If you have a toddler, you may be all too familiar with this word. When a toddler does not want something, they will shout this word. As we get older saying the word “no,” tends to become difficult. Why does it become difficult for us to say no? Why…Boundaries3 min readBoundaries3 min read
Sep 6Member-onlyBe the Person You Looked Up to When You Were YoungIt Is Time To Be the Master I am finally the woman I looked up to when I was young. I have room to grow, of course, I know that I now can walk alongside younger individuals and help guide them. I am confident in this. In the past, I…Mentorship2 min readMentorship2 min read
Jul 26Therapy 101Benefits of Counseling and How to Find a Provider — Originally published on my blog: selfscience.org I am a counselor, and through and through this is my career. I have seen firsthand the benefits of receiving therapy not just because of my job, but because I have also been the one on the couch. …Mental Health3 min readMental Health3 min read
Jun 27Why Daydreaming Is Good For YouDon’t Quit Your Daydream — This was originally posted on selfscience.org When I was little, I would often be found gazing off…teachers would complain that I was not paying attention. It’s true, I wasn’t. They would wave their hand, say my name, and roll their eyes. Other times, I was found in my room, laying…Self Care3 min readSelf Care3 min read
Jun 9Why We need to Embrace Our Creative SideGo On, Let the Inner Child Out — When I create, I am happy, energized, and fulfilled. Working on a new creative project with blood, sweat, and tears, and then after a while, finally seeing that finished project, relief sets in, and that feeling of accomplishment bubbles to the surface. It does not matter how big or how…Self Care2 min readSelf Care2 min read
Published inBlack Bear·May 3Member-onlyEmbrace Your Fear, Conquer Your FearIs Your Natural Fear Response Helpful, or Unhelpful? — A shorter free version of this article was previously published in Selfscience.org. I am always afraid. Okay, that may be dramatic. But I fear a lot of things. I fear heights (more like falling), lighting, dogs that bark, dogs that don’t bark, shadows — snakes. Sometimes fear hinders me —…Health4 min readHealth4 min read
Apr 12The Benefits of MindfulnessTake a Moment to Breathe — Mindfulness has been in vogue for the last several years. There have been magazine article after article talking about the benefits of being present. You would think mindfulness was this amazing new idea, but it’s not, it has been around for thousands of years…and it works. Being mindful has had…Mindfulness3 min readMindfulness3 min read
Apr 4Member-onlyMass Shootings: A Symptom of a Country Who Has No Hope…How Do We Decrease the Violance? — Authors note: This essay was written one week ago, the day after the shooting in Tennessee, filled with emotion I decided to publish it on Medium. “So sad.” My friend had just sent me another article about another mass shooting, this time in an elementary school. …Gun Violence4 min readGun Violence4 min read
Mar 27The Art of ListeningMaking Others Feel Heard and Seen — I listen for my job. I can only do my job if I let the person I am with tell their story. Which means I have to really hear them. Naturally, I am a talkative person, sometimes I must remind myself to not just listen to them, not just to…Listening Skills3 min readListening Skills3 min read
