Thank you for sharing your experience. I had a similar experience with someone close to me. The problem was that when I expressed my feelings, a lot of repressed feelings from the past came out. They were not fresh feelings. Of course, the person could not understand why I was so angry with a minor incident and she felt attacked. That is what created the conflict. Could that be the case with you and your brother? Also, did you follow the last two rules in the article a) do not articulate thoughts as feelings and (b) do not blame others for your feelings. I think the closeness and the expression of feelings is a virtuous circle. You cannot be close to someone unless you are honest about your feelings. It is difficult to be honest about your feelings if you do not feel close.