5 Things that I Have Learned from My Past Relationships

Any relationship is a beautiful bond between two people. It is enchanting and arrives with a lot of promises. There are so many aspects and topics to talk about regarding relationships. Everyone tries to keep the relationship safe and sound. But still, for some, it works whereas for many it doesn’t. The reasons are various and quite deep. If I start talking about all of my past relationships, then I might run short for time. All those pungent moments of my earlier relationships have provided me with a number of important lessons. There are 5 major things that I have learned and tried to acquire. Let’s talk about all of them.
1. It is of no use to pull on the strings

Well! I must admit that I have learned this lesson after a long time. Earlier I always used to think that relationships can be saved if pleaded properly. Alas! It is all baseless. A person who does not want to stay with you, it seems ridiculous actually to request. The one who stays with you was meant to be there with you, but the one who does not, was never the intended one. I also realised that my request cannot influence someone else’s decision. And for some point in time, if I believe that the person would stay, it doesn’t imply that I would be loved. So basically, when a breakup is evident, then nothing can stop it.
2. Hiding might create serious troubles

This is probably one of the most crucial things that I have learned in the last few months. Trust builds the premise of relationships. When the fundamental attribute is missing, then everything becomes empty. To build the trust factor, one needs to share everything with the partner. I have seen in my life that hiding always has created a fuss. In fact, hiding is considered to be equivalent to a breach of trust. And, this thing eventually invites infidelity. I wish I knew the importance of this thing earlier.
3. Flaws are good
It is nearly impossible for a person to be completely flawless. Whether a person would find another person flawless or not, it entirely depends on the perspective of them. So basically, it is of no point to tell the other person how faulty he or she is. But, this is one thing where most people make mistakes. Couples feel that they need to complete each other by making themselves perfect which never happen in that way. When we fall in love with a certain person, we have to accept every aspect of that person. And this is something which I would never forget.
4. Life is not a La La Land

Well! When we fall in love, we feel we are in a dreamy-land where everything is exactly the way it seems. No! Life is beautiful indeed but definitely not a fairy tale. And, this is something that none would tell you. Problems would be there but they need to be solved. Nothing can be impeccable and perfect at the same time. Any relationship always provides you with a series of ups and downs. Naturally, problems arise. But, the solution would not arrive ever of we presume that problem means to cut it off from the root.
A relationship fails but not always a particular individual is responsible for that. Both the people are equally responsible to maintain a healthy relationship. And, this is one such thing that I have learned from my past relationships.
5. Blame Game does not end happily
There are many people who love to blame others for their own mistakes. Well! It might sound slightly funny but in reality, it is one of the most disgusting things. Especially, if the blame game continues to occur in your relationship, then you must know that time has come to take things seriously.
The best thing to do in a relationship is to admit your mistake. At least, it would save the relationship at an early stage. I wish I had known about it earlier.
Conclusion:
My past relationships did not work the way it ought to be. Apparently, in some of the cases, I earnestly wanted miracles to happen. But obviously, nothing that sort of thing ever happened. I would never say that everything happened because of the other people. In fact, I was responsible for many. Relationships are delicate and they should be protected by every means. I wish I had known all these things and their importance in life. I do not regret anymore but the experiences have definitely educated me to some extent. By saying all these things, I am pretty sure that all these 5 things would definitely help you to redefine the borderlines and the commitments of your relationship.
