Depression: Expectation Vs Reality

Megan Clarkie
Nov 8 · 2 min read

When it comes to depression the expectation from ‘the outside’ is that you’ll get over it. People not having been through depression, do not understand what you are going through and pass snide comments such as ‘there are plenty of people worse off then you, what do you have to be sad about? Or ‘you should be grateful for what you have’. Other comments include; build a bridge, attention seeker or go to the doctors; its just a ‘chemical imbalance in the brain”. If they haven’t experienced it, they have no idea what you are going through.

The reality of depression is much harsher, as you spiral out of control, unable to stop the negative self-talk, negative emotions as the world closes in around you feeling as if you are drowning.

You don’t have the capacity to change your mind set at this stage, as you are free falling, making you feel even worse. As your mood and emotions adjust, the exercise stops, the unhealthy eating creeps in and the mind-numbing television binges. If you smoke or drink, this comes into play now too, making you feel totally out of control and hitting rock bottom. But you don’t care, it’s the escape from the pain, the temporary relief the addictive habits bring, the small amounts of reassurance that your reality just can’t give you at this moment.

The lack of motivation, lack of care and general don’t give a f*@k attitude tends to follow with the bad looks and emotions.

You stay in your depressive state for a night, a day, a few more days, then the weeks rolls by and if you can’t turn it around, you’re in trouble. It starts affecting your work, family and people around you.

Until you get to the point where you must make a choice. One choice is all it is going to take at this stage, do I stay, or do I go……And this is the reality of depression.

So, you make the decision to stay. Clean up your act, start digging your way back out of the hole you have dug. Start with a shower, a bit of exercising, slowly eating healthier, until you start to see some light at the end of the tunnel and we’re back; doing life again.

Until the next time depression creeps in……..

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I am a Transformation Life Coach; Transcend your Life with Megan on FB. Certified in NLP, Hypnosis and Timeline Therapy. Studying EFT, Nutrition & Wellbeing

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