“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself” — Deborah Reber

Some things are really neccessary just as some people are very important in our lives. But don’t forget that nothing and no one will last forever. One moment we are here and the next moment we are gone. See, green leaves fall and and dry leaves fall too. Like i said in my earlier publication; no one is ever too important in our life to help you.

If someone really makes a decision to leave your life, LET, THEM, GO!

This has helped me so much in relationships and people in my life, romantic or friends, it doesn’t matter.

On what to do now that youre alone again after being in a long relationship

Its ok to cry, be depressed or upset about it for a minute but dont stay there too long. Get up and go on with your life.

This is what I have learned in all these years Ive been on this earth: if somebody wants to get up and walk out of your life, Let. Them. Go. Especially if you know you’ve done everything you could do. You’ve sat around and been the best man or the best woman you could be, and they still wanna go? Let,Them, Go!. Whatever they’re running after, they’ll see what they had in a minute, but by then its gonna be too late. Let go because half these people you’ve been sitting around crying about, in 2-3 years from now you won’t even remember their last name. How many times you seen old folk somewhere and you go like what the hell was I THINKING?! I’ve been there, thought, What was I going through? I must’ve been lonely as hell to hook up with you!

Let folks go honey. Some people come into your life for a lifetime, and some come for a season. You got to know which is which. And you’re gonna always mess up when you mix those Seasonal People up with Lifetime expectations. There are people that went and got married to someone they were only supposed to be with for a season. And they wonder why they have so much hell in their life. That was a person who was supposed to come and teach them one thing, they didn’t know so they fell in love and now they wonder why they have no peace nowhere they go.

Listen, I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people, are like leaves on a tree: the wind blow, they’re over here. They’re unstable. The wind blow, they over there. The weather changes, they wither up and die they’re gone. And thats alright. Thats some people; most people in the world are like that, they’re just there to take from the tree. That’s all they do, take from the tree and give shade now and again. Thats all they can do. But dont get mad at people like that, thats who they are, they’ll never be anything but a leaf. Thats what they were put on this earth to be,a leaf!. Some people, are like a branch on that tree. You gotta be careful with those branches too, because they’ll fool you. Theyll get there and make you think they’re good friends and that they1re strong, but the minute you step out there on them? Theyll break and leave you high and dry. But if you find you two or three people in your life that are like the roots at the bottom of that tree? You are truly blessed because those kind of people that aint going NO WHERE. They aint worried about being seen, don’t nobody have to know that they know you, they ain’t got to know what theyre doing for you, but if those roots werent there that tree couldn’t live. A tree can have a hundred million branches, but only a few roots down at the bottom to make sure it gets everything it needs. I’m telling you honey, when you get you some roots, hold on to them. The rest of them? Just let them go. Let folks go.

*but, its not always that easy*

Nobody said it was gonna be easy! But it’ll get easier when you learn how to love yourself. When you get to a point in your life when you look at people and go: okay, wait a minute. You? Or me? You will make a decision. Look, I’ve never just thrown nobody away. I’ve never in my life just thrown somebody away, just say: dont bother me. Dont talk to me no more. I have never done that. What I do is, I tell them: look here, this thing you’re doing right here? That’s gonna cause a problem you need to fix that. Cause if we gonna be friends, you gotta fix it. If you dont, we gonna have an issue. Now, if you see someone fix it, or they even trying to fix it, thats someone that cares. Keep them around. That’s a leaf thats trying to grow up and be something else. But if you tell somebody that what theyre doing is hurting and they need to stop it, and they keep doing it? They dont care move on. Let them go!. No matter how much it hurts, let them go. And it’ll get easier, I promise you . Everyday it will get easier and easier and easier. You just got to make it through.

Thanks for reading.


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