5 Unsavoury Traits That Will Save You From The Deep Dark Hole Of Failure And Launch You Into The Bright Blue Sky Of Success
We have all been there.
Trapped in the deep dark hole of failure into which we’ve either recklessly or unintentionally tumbled, huddled into our cloaks of misery.
Considering, that almost 80% of people are in the habit of breaking their new year’s resolution within the first month, I would say that all of us have failed at something at some point in our life.
But, then there are also those people who have failed over and over again, in far more severe ways than just not keeping to a silly new year’s resolution.
Often we find that these seemingly unlucky beggars are not just getting back on top, but are wondrously landing on the highest pinnacles of human achievements.
How do they do that? They must have magic powers, surely.
Read on, you might be surprised.
Here’s magic power number 1: pursing-the-lips-grinding-the-teeth stubbornness, such as “I will not give in, no, I will not!”
We’ve all raised a judgmentally arched eyebrow at the child that is throwing itself on the supermarket floor because it can’t have its way. It’s just so irritating!
A Research Project conducted by the University of Luxembourg over 40 years from 1968 to 2008 has found that children that are stubborn and rebellious are more likely to be successful in life!
Amongst all the eyebrow-arching and tut-tutting, aren’t we forgetting that being hard-headed also means being strong-willed, fierce and unswerving?
The prime example here is Steve Jobs.
Failing epically on several occasions didn’t intimidate the man one bit. He seemingly effortlessly launched himself back into the bright blue Apple sky through sheer pigheadedness.
Being as stubborn as an old mule is actually a super power!
Magic power number 2:
Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who is the proudest person of them all?
Mr Darcy, of course!
The personification of the “P” word; the despicable gentleman whose excess of pride makes one’s toes curl.
The Dictionary describes the meaning of the word as “a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.”
In short, being proud is typically associated with being a selfish prat and not caring about what or who is extinguished in the process of putting oneself first.
Not exactly a charming power to have then.
A recent psychological research project by the Journal of Personality confirmed that being a proud person can raise your achievement desire to such a high level that you are bound to become the best at what you have set out to do.
Makes sense. After all, if you want to look down on people, you have to do so from a vantage point.
Be unashamedly proud, and you shall reap the rewards!
Mr Darcy got what he wanted, didn’t he?
And, everybody loved him in the end.
Some may describe impatience as the “dark” personality trait.
And its composition can read like the bullet points made to outline the script for a depressing thriller.
There are also a lot of “unables” in the description of the condition — unable to wait, unable to tolerate, unable to endure …
So, where does this “unable-ness” fit into our plan for success?
Not being able to wait is, in fact, one of the most powerful accelerators to catapult you to where you need to be.
As one of the most impatient people in the world (according to my husband), I’m living proof of this.
For example, I don’t queue. I always find a way to avoid having to wait in an orderly line.
And, no, I do not infuriate dedicated queue-worshippers by rudely jumping ahead and then pretending to be deaf to the inevitable barrage of abuse that would no doubt follow such an irresponsible act.
I quickly (of course) assess the situation and apply the most suitable tactic to get me to the top.
One of these tactics is to just ask “Would you awfully mind if I go ahead of you?” and more often than not I get what I want and a polite smile on top as a bonus.
Impatience used wisely and responsibly is one of the greatest motivators to get you there, quickly!
Even if it is the “dark” power, it is also the fastest.
Let’s think about this question: “What would have happened if nature had given us risk-averse genes?”
Most likely we’d all still be living in caves, and there wouldn’t even be any fire!
And I most certainly wouldn’t write this blog post.
Recklessness or daredevilry is the key that has unlocked door after door since the Neanderthal age and has made us the most advanced and superior creatures on planet Earth.
To quote the words of John F Kennedy: “Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”
By being reckless you are bound to lose your footing sometimes, but by never taking any risks you are sure to stand still forever.
We all learn best from our mistakes.
So, let’s make as many mistakes as we can, and we will be the wisest guys on the Planet.
Be reckless, be smart. Magic power number 4.
There are many types of obsessions. Some are severely debilitating.
However, the type of obsession covered in this post has the potential to be the most potent power in our list of winning traits.
The boxing champion Floyd Mayweather says there’s only one thing distinctly different about him: “I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, but if we get on a treadmill together, there’s two things. You’re getting off first, or I’m gonna die. It’s really that simple.”
This quote sums up how obsession is often a major part of the mindset of a champion, a successful entrepreneur or of other super achievers.
The willingness to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals is a kind of obsession that transforms mere passion into something ultra productive.
The obsessed will not stop until he has reached his or her goal and would make the ultimate sacrifice for the cause.
This kind of disposition is not exclusive to the super successful people.
Most of us have it, just in a watered down version.
Remember the last time you couldn’t update your most used software to the latest version?
Did you shrug and say to yourself “Ah well, it’s still working. I cannot use the awesome new features, but, hey, that’s life.”
Or despite the overwhelming urge to throw your device out of the window, you gritted your teeth and spent hours to look for a solution.
If you are the latter type, you did manage to find the solution and are now a regular user of those awesome new features.
You are also the proud owner of a healthy dose of our kind of magic obsession. Congratulations!
Not giving up until the job is done? Now, what power could be more potent than this one?
In conclusion, being a pompous, pigheaded arse who is risking it all to get exactly what he or she wants is actually not that bad after all.
Do you recognise any of the wonder traits in yourself? Or not?
Please feel free to share your thoughts!